How I Felt Talking to My Birth Daughter on Her Birthday

I was so excited about talking to my birth daughter on her birthday. But I was also nervous. Would she even want to talk?

Meghan Xavier April 19, 2016
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Before my birth daughter’s birthday this year I had not yet had the opportunity to talk to her on the telephone. I was able to visit on her birthday last year, but she wasn’t talking yet and was also very shy. This year, a few days before her birthday, her mom emailed me saying that they would love to talk to me on her birthday on the phone.

As soon as I read the email, my heart jumped for joy. I was bursting with emotions, including nervousness and happiness. I was happy because I was going to be able to talk to her on the phone for the first time. I was going to be able to hear the sound of her voice, which I hadn’t heard until then. I was nervous because I didn’t know how it would go. What would I talk to her about? Would she even want to talk?

When the big day came,  her mom and I talked for a little while about ordinary things: what they were doing, what I was doing, how work and school were going, how I was coping with my mom’s recent passing. Everybody seemed to be faring well. Then my birth daughter came on the phone.

I have never heard anything more sweet and precious than her voice.

As I listened to her talk, I was able to picture her little self with that tiny little girl voice. It was a perfect image. She and I talked about princesses, about how much she loves Cinderella and that Elsa is her favorite. We talked about her turning 3 that day and that she was a big girl now. She adorably asked me, “How are you?”

The best part came when she said “I love you.” It was faint, but it was there, and I was just completely head over heels, as I always am, for this little girl that I have the privilege to call my birth daughter. She is lovely, sweet, kind, loving, selfless, considerate, and adorable. I am excited to talk with her in person and I can’t wait for the day that she says “I love you” to me face to face.

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Meghan Xavier

Meghan Xavier is a birth mom of two years, and she wants to help other birth moms have an idea of what their journey will be like. Meghan is in the process of figuring out what she wants to do with her life. She is currently in school and hopes to graduate with her Associate's degree by 2017. Meghan is a lover of animals: her true loves are horses and dogs. She hopes to own a horse farm in the future. Some of Meghan's hobbies include golfing, fishing, horseback riding, and reading. Meghan loves the cold and, ironically, loves the beach. Meghan's family is everything to her - nothing is more important.

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