Sometimes when our feelings get to be too much, we search for a way to be able to escape from them. Often, we turn to music. Why? What is it about music that can so perfectly match what we are feeling or going through at the moment. Perhaps it is the comfort that someone else, somewhere, is listening to the same song and actually knows what we are feeling. We can drown ourselves in music. When placement was still fresh and raw, I depended on music to get me through my day and help me work through the overwhelmingly strong (and, sometimes, conflicting) emotions. Some of the music reminded me of my own ache, other songs reminded me of others’ heartache and the reason that I placed.

Below is a list of favorite songs of some birth parents. Not all of the songs are necessarily written about adoption, but isn’t that part of the beauty of music? We can take what we need from the different songs we listen to. Which of the favorite songs in the list remind you of your journey in adoption?


Blessed – Elton John
Delivery – Cherie Call (This video features some of my favorite adoption peeps!)
From God’s Arms To My Arms To Yours – Michael McLean
Hardest for Me – Michael McLean
I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
If My Heart Had Wings – Faith Hill
Lullaby in Blue – Bette Midler (This is more geared toward closed adoption)
You’ll Be In My Heart – Phil Collins (Also listen to the Celtic Woman version HERE – It is beautiful!)
Beautiful Heartbreak – Hilary Weeks
A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
A Mother’s Prayer – Celine Dion (original version is called “The Prayer”)
Fields of Gold – Celtic Women
Everything to Me – Mark Schultz
I Give You to His Heart – Alison Krauss
The One Who Knows – Dar Williams