The visible scars of infertility may fade over time, but grief can linger for many couples who have struggled to conceive.

While adopting a child may fill a void in one’s journey to parenthood, it will not erase the pain caused by the inability to do so without significant medical or financial hurdles.

Adopting a child does not negate the heartache caused from infertility.

It does not change the financial and emotional investments made with pursuing infertility treatments.

It does not magically cure the brokenness you’ve felt toward your body and its inability to work as it should.

Adopting a child does not alter any lab results. It does not make uncomfortable treatments and procedures suddenly a fond memory. It doesn’t erase the sting of pregnancy announcements or baby showers or gender reveal parties.

Adopting a child does not take away the hours spent charting cycles, scheduling appointments and blood draws and ultrasounds. It does not allow the images of negative pregnancy tests to abruptly disappear from your mind.

While adopting a child can be a beautiful, bittersweet way to grow your family, it does not change the road and hardships that may have led you there in the first place.

That’s why it’s important to grieve the loss of having biological children prior to pursuing the adoption process.

Adoption does not–and will not–fix the grief and heartache associated with infertility.

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