The Best Advice I Ever Got In My Adoption Journey

These are the six pieces of advice I want to share with you.

Lauren Madsen May 25, 2017
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Educate Yourself

Exploring options is necessary when choosing to adopt. Look into different agencies, adoption attorneys, and whether you want to adopt domestically, internationally, or through foster care.  Research each option carefully and decide what is best for your family. It can also be helpful to speak with someone who has already gone through the adoption process.

Do Some Soul Searching

It is important to be honest with yourself about what you can handle. Ask yourself these questions:

- Are you open to adopting sibling groups?

- Are you open to adopting a child with special needs?

-Do you want to adopt a child of a certain age, gender, race or are you open to any child?

- Do you want to have an open or closed adoption?

Find Support

Adoption is an emotional roller coaster and it is important to feel supported on your journey. Surround yourself with those who encourage you as your pursue adoption. There will probably be times you need to turn to them as you experience the ups and downs of your journey.

Prepare Yourself For Waiting

A popular saying in the adoption community is, “hurry up and wait.” You wait for your application to process; you wait for your home study to begin; you wait for your background check to clear; you wait for the judge to sign the approval for you home study; and then you wait for “the call.” Whether you wait for days, months, or years, it feels like you wait FOREVER.  Try to use this time to have some fun to help the time pass more quickly.

Get Ready For Invasive Questions

You will get questioned not only by social workers, but also by the lady in the post office, the clerk at the bank, the elderly couple at the park, your neighbor’s guests from out of town, and the list goes on and on, but you get my point. People are curious about adoption, however they aren’t always tactful when asking questions. You can also use these times to educate others on adoption. Some questions are rude and while most people have good intentions, it’s okay to not answer every question directed at you regarding why or how you are adopting.

Don’t Give Up

Yes, there is a lot of paperwork, a lot of waiting, a lot of emotions, a lot of decisions, a lot of planning, and possibly a lot of cost involved with adoption, but DON’T GIVE UP!

Are you ready to pursue a domestic infant adoption? Click here to connect with a compassionate, experienced adoption professional who can help get you started on the journey of a lifetime.

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Lauren Madsen

Lauren is a wife, mother, dog lover and outdoor enthusiast. She and her husband just adopted a beautiful little boy after years of struggling infertility and miscarriages. Lauren graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in Marriage and Family Studies and is currently living in Idaho where she enjoys spending time with family, hiking, riding dirt bikes, playing with her two dogs and camping. She writes about her journey as she navigates life as a new mom and as a long time grieving mother. Her goal is to empower and uplift people in all stages of life, while encouraging an honest dialogue about the taboo subject of miscarriage, child loss and adoption. You can follow her story on her blog, One Day At A Time.


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