A Tribute to the Most Important Person in My Adoption Process

During my unplanned pregnancy, I was blessed to have a friend who saw me through all my ups and downs.

Meghan Xavier August 19, 2015
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When you go through an unplanned pregnancy and then the adoption process, you should always have someone there to support you. You will need them to say things only a parent, best friend, or sibling would say. When I found out that I was pregnant, I told the man in my life who was like a father, big brother, and best friend all wrapped together. Even though I was nervous to tell people, I wasn’t nervous about telling him because he was everything I needed in a friend. He helped me figure out how to tell my mom. He helped me to know that yes, this was not what I planned for my life, but I could make the most out of a bad situation. I was taught that I now had a lot of responsibility to protect, and do what was best for, my child.

This wonderful man taught me about life, faith, and believing in myself. He taught me techniques for working out my frustrations and anger about my situation. He helped me know that it was okay to be mad, but that I had to get it out in a way that wouldn’t hurt me or anyone else. He loved me with every piece of his heart. He was always trying to help me and everyone around him. When he had a friend who needed help, he reached out to me because he believed that I would be a good testament that when you make one poor decision and decide to change your life for the better, you become someone who has a lot of faith.

This wonderful man taught me about life, faith, and believing in myself.

Through our relationship I learned so much about myself, one thing being that I am a strong woman. When he passed away just 4 1/2 months after my daughter was born, I was crushed by his death. Even though he was not there for me physically, he was there spiritually. When I found out that he had died, I felt his hand on my shoulder comforting me and telling me that it would be okay. I have been able to hear him speaking to me in times of joy and times of sadness, and what a wonderful gift it is to experience and feel him even after death. For me, being able to feel his presence shows we had an unbreakable bond as friends. I only hope that through the rest of my life I can continue to feel and know of his presence around me and be able to share everything that I learned from him with my friends and future children.

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Meghan Xavier

Meghan Xavier is a birth mom of two years, and she wants to help other birth moms have an idea of what their journey will be like. Meghan is in the process of figuring out what she wants to do with her life. She is currently in school and hopes to graduate with her Associate's degree by 2017. Meghan is a lover of animals: her true loves are horses and dogs. She hopes to own a horse farm in the future. Some of Meghan's hobbies include golfing, fishing, horseback riding, and reading. Meghan loves the cold and, ironically, loves the beach. Meghan's family is everything to her - nothing is more important.


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