Always know that as adoptees, we thank you for being our forever families.
Don’t deny your feelings of fear and apprehension if your child decides to search. We are your children. Of course you don’t want to lose us.
Open communication is key in an adoptive family. Remember to ask us if we have any questions about adoption, and be open to listening to them and giving answers as you see fit.
People will ask you questions about the adoption process and about your adopted child. Have an open heart and listen to the questions. Do not judge the questions, but use the time as an educational opportunity about adoption.
Take time to understand if we desire to know our roots and where we came from. It is not that we feel unloved or unwanted. It is just an innate desire to come across our reflection in a pool of genetic waters.
Imagination can be important for the adoptee to work through not knowing their biological roots, and being in constant wonder. Be ready for your child when they talk about how they think their biological parents are famous, or living in the same town as them, waiting for them to be discovered.
One thing to remember, we are your child. Please don’t refer to us as your adopted child to anyone, whether they be friends or family.
Needs have to be met. We children who are adopted have the same basic needs as those that are not adopted. We want to be loved ad cared for unconditionally. We want too be able to be a child, to laugh and live like a child.