Yes, It IS Possible for an Adopted Foster Child to Adapt to a New Family

For reassurance on this matter, reach out to others who have been there.

Denalee Chapman August 02, 2016
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For those considering adopting through foster care, it can be a little daunting, wondering if the child can actually adjust and be happy. After all, a child in another’s care will develop expectations for daily routines, form habits, and develop personality characteristics based on that environment. A potential foster parent might ask: What if the child’s interests, activity levels, and habits are completely different than those in my family? Or: Will my new child accept change willingly and eventually even accept my love? 

The best way to get answers to those questions and more is to talk with those who have gone before. Don’t know parents who have adopted through foster care? Join a support group or take part in a forum. Ask around your neighborhood or church to get introduced to adoptive parents others know. Most parents who have adopted through foster care tell it straight. And most often they say something like, It has been hard. Really hard. But it’s totally been worth it. I wouldn’t trade my child for anything! 

A cute example of how adaptation takes place in nature can be found with this darling, unlikely pair who share a pouch at the Wildlife Kilmore Rescue Centre in Victoria, Australia. Anzac the kangaroo and Peggy the wombat were both orphaned and rescued. With similar personalities, the two animals have ignored their differences and focused on friendship. Both being herbivores, it’s quite likely that their familial relationship will continue into adulthood—that is, as long as Peggy the wombat can keep up with Anzac’s quick hopping.

Surely if different species can adapt to not only live together but to enjoy it, so can people! So don’t let the unknown scare you away. If you’re considering adoption through foster care, ask around and let your heart be calmed by the real-life experiences you hear.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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