How to Avoid Adoption Scammers

A Guide for Hopeful Adoptive Parents

Adoption is a journey filled with hope, love, and anticipation—but it can also leave you vulnerable. For hopeful adoptive parents, sharing your story and opening your heart is a courageous step. Sadly, that vulnerability is sometimes targeted by scammers who exploit the emotional and financial stakes of adoption.

At Adoption.com, we believe that knowledge is power—and protection. If you’re navigating the adoption process, this guide will help you recognize red flags, safeguard your heart, and feel more confident as you connect with expectant parents.

1. Understand What Adoption Scams Look Like

Adoption scams can take many forms. Some are emotional manipulations—people pretending to be expectant mothers, stringing hopeful parents along for attention or a sense of control. Others are financial scams, asking for money under false pretenses. And some are simply identity fraud—using stolen photos and fake stories to deceive.

While the majority of people in the adoption space are genuine, it’s important to stay aware and protect yourself from those who are not.

2. Common Red Flags to Watch For

Here are a few warning signs that should prompt caution or a deeper look:

• They won’t video chat or meet in person
  Avoiding face-to-face communication can be a sign that someone isn’t who they say they are.
• The story feels rushed or too perfect
  If someone seems overly eager to place their baby with you—before a real relationship or conversation has begun—it may be a red flag.
• They ask for money directly
  While expectant mothers may have legitimate financial needs, these should always be managed through a licensed agency or attorney.
• Inconsistent or vague communication
  If answers are unclear, timelines keep changing, or something “just doesn’t feel right,” pay attention to your gut.

3. Use Trusted Platforms and Professionals

One of the best ways to protect yourself is to work with trusted adoption professionals and platforms. When you connect with expectant parents through Adoption.com, you’re using a space designed with hopeful adoptive families in mind, and one that encourages transparency and ethical adoption practices.

In addition to your Adoption.com profile, be sure to partner with a licensed adoption agency or attorney. They can help vet communication, manage finances, and ensure everything stays legal and above board.

4. Keep Communication Safe and Documented

Whenever possible, keep your early communication with expectant moms within secure platforms like Adoption.com’s messaging tools. This helps ensure there’s a digital trail in case anything questionable arises.

Avoid giving out your personal phone number, email, or home address too early. Use caution with what you share, especially photos or details about your finances, job, or daily schedule.

5. Don’t Let Desperation Overrule Discernment

We understand how deeply you want to become a parent. That desire is beautiful and valid. But scammers prey on urgency and emotion. They may say things like, “I just feel like this baby is meant for you,” or “I need to make a decision tonight.” These tactics are designed to cloud your judgment.

Slow down. Breathe. Real connection takes time—and anyone making a genuine adoption plan will understand that.

6. What to Do If You Suspect an Adoption Scam

If something feels off, here’s what you can do:

• Stop communication immediately.
  Don’t engage further or try to call out the scammer—that can escalate things unnecessarily.
• Document everything.
  Save messages, emails, and screenshots. This can be helpful if you need to report the incident.
• Report the user.
  Use reporting tools or contact support.
• Notify your agency or legal professional.
  They can provide guidance and take appropriate action if needed.

7. Emotional Impact Is Real—Seek Support

Being targeted by a scam can leave you feeling betrayed, embarrassed, or even grief-stricken. These feelings are real and valid. Reach out for support—whether it’s a counselor, adoption support group, or trusted friend.

You are not alone. So many hopeful parents have walked this road and come out stronger. Encountering a scam does not mean your story ends here.

Stay Hopeful, Stay Informed

Protecting yourself doesn’t mean being closed off. It means being wise, grounded, and supported as you step forward with love. Your desire to become a parent is powerful, and there are expectant parents out there genuinely looking for someone just like you.

At Adoption.com, we’re here to help you stay safe, stay strong, and stay connected—to the resources, community, and hope that brought you here in the first place.