In the adoption community, we prioritize using positive and respectful language to honor the courage and love behind every adoption decision. While the phrase “putting a child up for adoption” was once commonly used, it is no longer preferred as it may imply a lack of care or consideration. Instead, we use terms like “making an adoption plan” or “choosing adoption” to emphasize the agency and compassion involved in the process. Let’s explore how to navigate the adoption journey with dignity and support.

Choosing Adoption:

When you’re thinking about adoption, take your time to look into all the choices available to you and decide what’s best for you and your child. Open adoption is a form of adoption where the birth parents and adoptive parents maintain some level of contact and communication. In an open adoption, the birth parents may have the opportunity to choose the adoptive family and stay connected with the child as they grow up. This arrangement allows for transparency, ongoing relationships, and the sharing of information between all parties involved.

Making an Adoption Plan:

Creating an adoption plan involves thoughtful consideration and careful planning. You have the opportunity to select an adoptive family who shares your values and beliefs, outline your preferences for the adoption process, and receive support from experienced professionals.

Steps on Placing a Child Up for Adoption:

  1. Researching Your Options: Take the time to explore different adoption agencies and professionals to find one that aligns with your values and priorities.
  2. Choosing an Adoptive Family: Consider what qualities are important to you in an adoptive family and explore profiles to find the right match.
  3. Creating an Adoption Plan: Work with professionals to outline your preferences for the adoption process, including the level of openness you’re comfortable with.
  4. Receiving Support: Seek counseling and support services to help you navigate the emotional aspects of the adoption journey.

Choosing to put a child up for adoption is a deeply personal decision that deserves to be respected and supported. By embracing positive adoption language and seeking guidance from trusted resources, you can navigate this journey with confidence and compassion.


Q: How do I know if adoption is the right choice for me?

A: It’s normal to feel uncertain when considering adoption. Take the time to explore your options, ask questions, and seek support from trusted professionals.

Q: Will I have a say in choosing my child’s adoptive family?

A: Yes, you will have the opportunity to review profiles of prospective adoptive families and choose the family that feels like the right fit for you and your child.

Speaking with Other Birth Parents:

Connecting with other birth parents who have experienced adoption can provide valuable insight and support. Consider joining support groups or online communities where you can share experiences, ask questions, and receive encouragement from others who have walked a similar path.