Safe Questions Friends Can Ask Adoptive Families

So what are some things you can ask?

Virginia Spence October 29, 2018

Adoptive families are often asked rude and embarrassing questions. Largely, the questions are asked by people who truly WANT to understand their friend’s adoption but are unsure of what kinds of questions are acceptable. Everyone has heard the stories of what not to say to adoptive families, but what are some things that you CAN ask? You do not want to offend, but you genuinely want to understand and support the adoptive family. Nosy people and strangers tend to make the adoptive family more guarded and less likely to share. The level of your friendship with an adoptive family will most likely determine the appropriateness of your question and the type of reply you might receive. Here are a few suggestions of safe questions friends can ask adoptive families.

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Virginia Spence

Virginia Spence and her husband Eric are the proud parents of two awesome boys who joined their family via domestic infant adoption. Their journey through infertility and into the world of adoption awoke in her a passion for life at all ages/stages, especially the tiniest lives in the womb and the women who carry them, and a desire to champion the cause of those who choose to adopt. Virginia desires to be a voice for adoption through advocacy and education as well as an encouragement to those suffering through infertility. Virginia loves to read and considers herself a coffee connoisseur. When she isn't writing or drinking giant mugs of coffee, Virginia can be found watching Paw Patrol and racing hot wheel cars with her boys.

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