Terri Grygier

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Terri Grygier October 20, 2021 4:25 pm

I’m sorry Terri but reading your comment has my blood absolutely boil.. your comment when you said. “There is a real danger in an unstable person, clearly resentful and mentally unhealthy, having access to current photos of an adopted child” that has made my blood boil, for one it’s not your child, not in dna or blood. You never conceived the baby, you never see the baby’s heartbeat, you didn’t have any kind of scan, you didn’t see the midwife, you didn’t go through cramps, back ache, headaches to grow the child, you didn’t feel the baby kick, move, you didn’t grow that child in any aspects. You didn’t give birth to that baby, You didn’t go through Labour pains, you never Brought the baby comming into this world The biological mother did. I’m hitting you with hard truths, biologically it’s not your child… now for you to say there is a real danger in a unstable person, clearly resentful and mentally unhealthy.. is so wrong for you to say.. for one of course the mother is going to be unstable, she had her baby ripped out of her arms by social services, and her baby got adopted.. resentfulness is not towards you at all, it’s towards social services.. and being mentally unhealthy. You should never ever in your life judge someone for having mental health. Mental health is an illness that people can NOT control. Let me educate you a little bit on mental health.. with mental health you can get through child hood, how you where brought for example if you had a dad who’s present in your life but emotionally abandoneds you because his to focus on work.. you have attachment issues which then leads Up to emotional unstable personality disorder. Bipolar disorder is a Chemical imbalance in the brain. Now how you get bipolar it’s Genetic.. or stress can bring on your bipolar. Someone can have bipolar not know they have it untill stress comes into there life. then they Become very unwell.. so saying mentally unhealthy has really wound me up, because having a picture of her OWN child might her get through the day.. it might make her happy.. if she suffers with mental health, then it will make her feel better having a picture of her OWN child. It will make her that little bit better, it might help her to get out of bed in the morning and go about her day. So because she’s mentally unwell she’s a risk is she? She’s a danger to society Is she? So she’s a rubbish parent because she has mental health issues? No mate. Someone with mental health problems is not a danger to society and can parent there god dam child still and is not a risk towards there OWN child. The only time it’s a risk is if the mother don’t take her meds, knows she’s unwell and is not seeing a dr, psychiatrist or going into hospital to help them get better. Yes that’s a risk to a child. Because when your mentally unwell, you can become very depressed, neglect yourself for example they don’t wash, they don’t eat.. they don’t clean up the house. There going to likely neglect the child also.. but that doesn’t make them a bad parent, it means there very unwell and they can’t help it. And most of the time they don’t think there unwell cos they can’t see it but other people can:

But when a mother is taken her meds every single day, and is happy, looking after her child, you know providing for the child, the child is clean, going to school, the child is happy, the child needs are being met. The mum goes to drs when the child is sick then what’s the issue? Is she a risk to child? What if the mum is going to her dr and seeing the psychiatrist. There is no risk just cos someone has mental health doesn’t mean they can’t be a parent. That’s unfair.. your putting people down with mental health because you don’t have mental health yourself, so you think your better then that person that has mental health issue. You don’t know what it’s like to have mental health at all.. so you don’t understand the pain the mothers going through right now with losing her baby to the care system.. you just see her as a risk. Maby If you had mental health you could actually relate to the mother but you don’t, so you just see her as a straight risk. I can see your one of them adoptees that’s going to tell her child she’s an unfit mother, she couldn’t look after you, she neglected you, or you might even say she gave you up. So your maken out her mum to be a right bad person.. If your moaning at her getting a picture of her OWN child, that really and truly should have a right of then I can tell your going to tell her baby negative things about her mother. It’s the system it’s corrupt. Social services, judge, froster placement, placement care order. All corrupt there’s not such thing as a bad parent not once it comes to mental health or if the mother is a victim domestic violence. What makes you a bad parent is if you do class A drugs, the dad is a Paedophile and the mother allows the dad to see the child knowing his a Paedophile yes that’s an unfit mother. Not someone who suffers with mental health or a victim of domestic violence.

Ps when you said the mother put my baby❤️ You sound very jealous, because it is her baby in the long of short of it. That is her baby, regardless if you’ve adopted her baby or not, that will always and I mean always be her baby.. her baby will forever be in her in her heart. When the child is 18 she can make her own on weather to her biological mum.. and 9 times out of 10 they do. Because they want to know who there biological mum and dad are.

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I’m sorry Terri but reading your comment has my blood absolutely boil.. your comment when you said. “There is a real danger in an unstable person, clearly resentful and mentally unhealthy, having access to current photos of an adopted child” that has made my blood boil, for one it’s not your child, not in dna or blood. You never conceived the baby, you never see the baby’s heartbeat, you didn’t have any kind of scan, you didn’t see the midwife, you didn’t go through cramps, back ache, headaches to grow the child, you didn’t grow the baby’s eyes, lips, head, nose, ears, arms, legs, body. You grew none of that babies organs, features or body parts. you didn’t feel the baby kick, move, you didn’t grow that child in any aspects. You didn’t give birth to that baby, You didn’t go through Labour pains, you never Brought the baby into this world The biological mother did. I’m hitting you with hard truths, biologically it’s not your child… now for you to say there is a real danger in a unstable person, clearly resentful and mentally unhealthy.. is so wrong for you to say.. for one of course the mother is going to be unstable, she had her baby ripped out of her arms by social services, and her baby got adopted.. resentfulness is not towards you at all, it’s towards social services.. and being mentally unhealthy. You should never ever in your life judge someone for having mental health. Mental health is an illness that people can NOT control. Let me educate you a little bit on mental health.. with mental health you can get through child hood, how you where brought for example if you had a dad who’s present in your life but emotionally abandoneds you because his to focus on work.. you have attachment issues which then leads Up to emotional unstable personality disorder. Bipolar disorder is a Chemical imbalance in the brain. Now how you get bipolar it’s Genetic.. or stress can bring on your bipolar. Someone can have bipolar not know they have it untill stress comes into there life. then they Become very unwell.. so saying mentally unhealthy has really wound me up, because having a picture of her OWN child might her get through the day.. it might make her happy.. if she suffers with mental health, then it will make her feel better having a picture of her OWN child. It will make her that little bit better, it might help her to get out of bed in the morning and go about her day. So because she’s mentally unwell she’s a risk is she? She’s a danger to society Is she? So she’s a rubbish parent because she has mental health issues? No mate. Someone with mental health problems is not a danger to society and can parent there god dam child still and is not a risk towards there OWN child. The only time it’s a risk is if the mother don’t take her meds, knows she’s unwell and is not seeing a dr, psychiatrist or going into hospital to help them get better. Yes that’s a risk to a child. Because when your mentally unwell, you can become very depressed, neglect yourself for example they don’t wash, they don’t eat.. they don’t clean up the house. There going to likely neglect the child also.. but that doesn’t make them a bad parent, it means there very unwell and they can’t help it. And most of the time they don’t think there unwell cos they can’t see it but other people can:

Ps when you said the mother put my baby❤️ You sound very jealous and bitter. because it is her baby in the long of short of it. That is her baby, regardless if you’ve adopted her baby or not, that will always and I mean always be her baby, because she carried that baby, that baby won’t look like you or your husband. It will look her biological mother and father. You have adopted her legally but, In dna and blood that baby is not yours. If the baby had a problem touch wood. And the baby needed to get blood of the mother to survive. Could you give your adopted child that blood? Or would you have to contact her biological mother and get the Biological mothers blood. You would have to contact the person who created her. her baby will forever be in her in her heart. When the child is 18 she can make her own mind up on weather to see her biological mum.. and 9 times out of 10 they do. Because they want to know who there biological mum and dad are .

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October 21, 2021
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