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Lynn Lane October 14, 2022 12:36 pm

Just found this site after looking if other adopted adults had been abused by their adopted family. I noticed your post was more recent than the 2006 posts. I'm 61 now and still can't forget what I we...

Just found this site after looking if other adopted adults had been abused by their adopted family. I noticed your post was more recent than the 2006 posts. I'm 61 now and still can't forget what I went through in that house. I think about it every week at least, have been to counselling years ago, but I don't think anything can take away that past. From being tied by my wrists with string, to a bed, a sock(s) stuffed in my mouth and my feet tickled. I couldn't laugh, cry or scream. I can remember red dents on my wrists where the knot from the string had been. I was under the age of 7 as I remember that 'brother' (himself adopted) being sent to pick me up from school to go to the dentist. I remember the class I was in and thinking, "Oh, what have they sent him for?!" He sexually abused me, when I was approx' 14, crawling on his hands and knees, his hands under my bedding and into my pj bottoms. I can still feel his dirty, long nails. My sister (again adopted!) woke me to tell me he had been near my bed. She didn't know I was awake the whole time... The 'parents' and the younger 'sister' moved down south when I was 18 to be near their only biological daughter. I didn't go, but I did visit once, after I'd had my first child. The 'brother' was there, tapped my bum as I passed him. I turned round and gave him such a smack across the face. and we returned home. There's much more than that from that house where I grew up. I hated it, had nowhere to turn. The 'parents' were approx 60 years old when they adopted me and already had 3 older adopted lads plus their own daughter. There was only one child, a girl, 4 years younger than me, again adopted. The 'parents' being so old, meant I had no grandparents, cousins - no one else. I am so sorry to go on, you've also suffered, no one should have to live through all this. And for many people, it will be hard to believe our stories are true, after all, people who adopt must be so loving and caring! it's fine if you don't reply. I just can't seem to find anyone else that's suffered or who can offer a listening ear. or anything. It doesn't get easier and it should.... So glad you've now got your own daughter, a great feeling to have - someone actually belong to you. x

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Lynn Lane replied on Nickels's thread "Has anyone been abused by adoptive parents?". March 26, 2022 11:14 am

I also got verbal abused by both.I have felt like I never fit in with my adopted parents maybe at certain points I felt like I did.It seemed my adopted mom wanted to get rid of me too.I have been bullied where I lived at at school.I had relationships that was abusive too.Now I have my true love a soon to be thirteen year old daughter and in search for my biological cousins biological aunt and biological mom.I would love to be a motivational speaker in this field and help adults adoptee adults like me get through this but no help where where I am for adoptees.No help like help for reuniting bio families or researchers.Therapy to for the adoptee or bio families.

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Lynn Lane replied on Nickels's thread "Has anyone been abused by adoptive parents?". March 26, 2022 10:27 am

I have and your not alone I have been emotionally mentally physically been abused by my adopted mother and sexually by my adopted father.I feel like I am alone because it happened as I got older by my adopted mom then at nineteen sexually.I now disowned my adopted mom years ago though.my adopted dad is deceased.I thought they suppose to love not hurt that's why I took it thought it was love and did not want to get them in trouble

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