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We have a 3 yr old Foster daughter. We found out she was sexually abused when she acted out on my nephew and son. I saw signs, but think I was in denial because of her young age. She has been with us 6 mo. We have her in intensive therapy. It is now clear that from ages 2 (when mom met conditions and got her back last time) to age 3 mom's boyfriend treated her as a girlfriend in every sense of the meaning. I think Mom's also join in on the molestation. She nows requires constant supervision.
I would love to hear from others who have dealt with sexual abuse, esp. in a child so young.
Oh yes, it is still a pos. she will be going back to bmom. She is going to see someone in sept. about pressing charges against the main prep. I am not sure she will talk. She only will address it in play therapy.
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How awful. It's so much worse for a child if the mom did participate. I'm not sure what kind of therapy she's doing, but you might check with an attachment trained therapist to see what they'd reccomend. I can't imagine anything that would devastate one's trust any worse.
It is very important to be clear with her about what is and isn't allowed. Because my son was that young when he began repeating those behaviors on other children, no one really bothered to help him with that part.(he was 9 when I met him & had quite a history by then). He'd had therapy about being a victim, but it stopped there. I think it's important to let your daughter know firmly, but lovingly, that what happened to her and what she's doing is not o'kay. Show her other nice ways to show someone you love them.
It's so very hard with such young children whose limited understanding of what really happened to them makes it so hard to help them.
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We are working with an attachment therapist. She seems to be "getting it", covered her eyes when a little boy pulled his pants down swimming. Yet, I thought that before and she acted out again. Looking back, everyone who met her remarks how 'mature' she is for just turned 3. She does not seem to have too many attachment issue. She is very good natured. Very resiliant. Yet it is that slight case of the seakiness that scares me most.
How is your son doing now?
My son didn't receive any intervention until 9. He just turned 13 but it's been barely over a year since he attempted to engage a person in sex. He's not big on forcing, but he would be an easy target for a pediphile and will probably engage in risky sex. He seeks older teens rather then younger children. He's really small for his age. He did make false allegations against a boy who refused sex and it took 2 months to clear it up.
But your daughter is getting early intervention and her chances of healing are much better then my sons. He has several other psych disorders and a brain injury.