Birthparents Jailed, Promised Their Baby to 3 couples.

If they signed with your agency, you should get some of your money back. For instance, any placement fees and such. Your agency should credit you some other services. After all, they are the professionals and should take some of the slack, regardless of how good this couple may have been. (They weren't so good that Jeanne Tate didn't see through them.) I know how devastating it is to lose a potential adoptive child. It is very difficult not to get attached, especially if you are in an open situation and are developing a relationship with the birthparents. My DH and I were in a similar situation, but without the fraud. We were able to hold and feed and care for our preicous little angel for 22 hours before the birthfather changed his mind. He just couldn't let her go and while we grieved terribly, we understood completely. We know she is in a loving home. I don't know if you can say the same but I hope for your sake and the baby's you can. It's a cliche, but time does mske the pain ease a little. We lost money as well and are trying to recover, but we didn't lose all of it. With an agency, there are supposed to be safeguards if the adoption falls through. Look into it - it'll help your recovery to pursue adopting another child. I live in Florida and have used Jeznne Tate's services. Feel free to PM me if you wish. I have been in emial contact with a friend of the NY couple they defrauded. It is amazing how small this world really is. If you wish to speak with them, I can try to get you in contact. Wishing you peace and joy, Carrol

I just wanted to offer my sympathy on your having been the victim of such an awful scam. There is another thread that "Cyrus" started after reading articles about this situation as a way to warn other hopeful adoptive parents ~ "Warning! Adoption scam" [url]http://forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=308626#post308626[/url] Again, I am so very sorry you were victimized. Sometimes it's easy for smart people to be fooled when they want to believe what they're being told. It is also so completely unbelievable to most people to believe that a person could be so pathetically deceptive for their own financial gain ~ using their own child ~ that it makes one vulnerable as well. How awful for someone to put you through this! :mad:

Terri, A similar thing happened to us, although we never knew if it was fraud, or just the birthmother hadn't told the birthfather and took us for whatever money she could until we wouldn't give her anymore. We never heard from her again and lost $2,000.00. As difficult as that was emotionally and financially, we kept going and are now matched with a beautiful young woman who we love dearly. Our baby is due in just a few weeks. You did nothing wrong. These people obviously knew what they were doing and how to take advantage of trusting people. Because you are not a criminal it's hard to think like one. You would never use a child for financial gain and cannot imagine someone else doing it. That's why you were a victim, not because you did anything wrong, but because you could not believe someone would do something like that. I am just so grateful these people were arrested. No doubt there would have been other victims had they not been. I wish you much luck in your future adoption plans. I hope your dream is fulfilled one day soon. Keep us updated on what's happening with you.