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We have adopted sibling a girl 5 and her 1 year old brother.... and to answer your questions from my own experience: When you adopt a child rather then a baby does the child bond with you. Will it think of me as mom and my husband as dad? The day we met our five year old she ran to us and asked, "are you my forever mommy and daddy?" and she has done well in bonding with us....... Some children have attachment issues so you would want to find out as much as you can before you adopt and attachement issues are very hard for us parents to deal with. If you have bad credit is it an issue to adopt. And what is the income they look at my husband currently only makes 25 a year and I am a student/mom will this take away our chances to adopt? It depends on where you are adopting...private or state. The state wants to be sure you can support yourself but is less picky about your finances...

We just adopted a 7 year old boy 2 months ago. Did he bond and view us as Mom and Dad? Absolutely! I don't know that its a guarantee in older adoptions, and I suspect it gets harder the older the child gets. But, even children with attachment disorders typically bond to their adoptive parents to some extent. I would start reading about attachment issues and attachment parenting in preparation for an older child adoption. As for a bad credit record, that is not going to affect your ability to adopt a child. Your current salary probably will. I know if you want to adopt internationally that you have to make 125% above the poverty level in order to sponsor a child to immigrate. But, I also know that if you make less than that amount, someone can co-sponsor the child. So, there are still options. As for domestic adoption, I believe they want to see that you can meet your obligations and afford a child. You would probably have to ask a case worker about the specifics of whether you qualify for adoption at your income level or not.