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Hello all. We need help. My niece is pregnant and due to have her baby in February of 2004. She doesn't want to keep the baby. She already has two children that are not with her. She says that she can't take care of herself let alone a baby. She says that since she was supposed to have her tubes tide the last time, this baby must have been sent to us from God. Although we have children from my previous relationships and also my husbands past relationship, we wanted one of our own together. However we haven't been able to conceive, due to my tube blockage. My niece knows that we have been trying and said this baby was meant for us. We just love children but we don't have the funds for all those legal adoption fees. We will even begin with full legal custody, but really want to adopt the baby. Can anyone one help us without all of the expensive fees or just give some advice, please.
Thanks.
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Hi,
Your story sounds like what happened in our family.My cousin got pregnant and decided she just couldn't keep the baby she had thought about putting it up for adoption through a service but my mother talked her into giving it a try.She did for awhile she moved in with us and for a few months tried to be his mom but in the end she just wasn't happy.In that time my mother was able to get close to him and she loved him very much my cousin moved out leaving him with her and they both new it was what my cousin really wanted this way there were no second thoughts that would hurt my mother or the baby.At that time we didn't have a lot of money either I don't know about your state but in mine she said she couldn't find the father so they mailed a notice out to the last known address and put an add in the paper because by law he could have come back later saying he had no idea and wanted the baby. It doesn't cost much to talk to a lawyer it would be worth it to protect yourself.Someday she could change her mind and if it isn't legal you will lose your baby they always side with the mother.And by that point you will love the baby just like your own.Make sure you protect yourself.We love him so much today I dodn't feel any different about him then any of my other brothers.I don't even think about it.Good luck.Heidi
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I have adopted one of my nephew's daughters and am in the process of adopting her sister and soon their half sister.
I was fortunate in that both girls were relinquished to me and my attorney charged me only 1/2 of what others wanted because I am doing a lot of the paperwork on my own.
The attorney has to file the petition and speak to the judge as well as make sure the home study is done but I did most of the other paperwork on my own.
I adopted my sister's child 23 years ago and I still had his Petition for Adoption. I used MS Word and retyped the relinquishments and waivers and other stuff and saved it to my PC. That is what I have been using for my latest adoptions.