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I am very upset with the Lds Missionaries. My daughter who is 15 is pregnant and she is keeping her child. she was taking the discussions from the missionaries and they told her she should go to the lds social services about placing her child for adoption. she told them she is keeping her baby because she wants to parent the child. I told the missionaries they are never welcomed in my home ever again and my daughter wont be taking the discussions again. my daughter is upset by what they had said to her. I dont want my daughter upset because she has a high risk pregnancy and her doctor told her to stay away from stress. I needed to vent thanks for listening to me.
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I am glad to hear that she is speaking with someone each week. This is a good way to speak your feelings, etc.
That is great that the church has a sit down job for her. Sounds like things are looking good.
Often times in this life we will face people who will offend us. It's not fair, but it is true. I am glad that she hasn't been offended by your church. Though no matter what church you view or look at, someone has been offended in some way, by someone else that is 'affiliated' with that church.
We are 'human' we have weaknesses. I pray that God will forgive me of my weaknesses as I strive to forgive other's of theirs.
Again, enjoy this wonderful sweet spirit that is coming in to your lives. It is good that you are a supportive and loving mother, and helping your daughter.
Stephanie
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she says she thinks the mormons want other peoples children. I told her I dont know if that is true. she said she thinks that is because they told her to place the child for adoption. she told me she never even asked the missionaries for advice or anything. Can the church speak to the missioanries about this problem?
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Hi!
I am truely sorry that the sisters offended your daughter. I am sure they meant well, it is just unfortunate that they were insensitive. :(
What Bromachik said is actually not completely true. While the church does encourage unwed mothers to marry if it is possible, they also offer the option of adoption, however if a woman decides to parents, LDS Family Services will help them make a plan so they can provide for the child.
When it comes down to it, there are plenty of people of every religion that say stupid things, missionaries just happen to wear a name tag and are easily identifyable. There are good people in all religions, so it is hard to judge the entire religion on a few stupid individuals.
Again, I hope that your daughter finds comfort and peace. I hope her little bundle of joy brings you and your family years and years of joy and happiness. :)
I wish you the best and will be praying for your daughter! I hope the pregnancy goes smoothly and that she likes her new job.
All my best,
LBL:)
My daughter was telling me that she had the missionaries here to learn about the religion and not to be told what to do with her child. she told the missionaries that and told them she is going to parent her baby and they looked at her really funny. I support her in her decsion to keep her child.
If your daughter is 15 and experiencing a high risk pregnancy.....you might want to help her avoid stressful situations. Things like religion and politics are very difficult subjects in the best of times. To be considering changing religions while attempting to avoid stress is impossible. Just the fact that this is/was being considered at this time is NOT good for a high risk pregnancy. Somehow focusing all the blame on LDS seems misguided. Debi
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No one religion is right for everyone. There are some things about a religion that you might agree with and part of it not agree with. That doesnt mean the religion or missionaires is wrong. Seems your daughter wasnt content with Catholic Church either if she was thinking of changing.
Not everyone thinks a 15 year old is ready to parent. Your daughter does and you do. Its her baby and your grandchild so that is good you agree. The missionaries had a different opinion. If your daughter and you dont want to hear what they have to say it is your choice not to invite them in. Dont see why you are chatting about this on LDS Adoptive Parents chat. No one here is responsible.
Linda, you need to be focusing on your daughter right now. Not some comment that was made, that was not intended to hurt, more misguided.
Allow people their weaknesses. Don't let this eat you up...as it seems to be doing. You said that you didn't think it was that big of a deal to consider changing a religions. It really is. There is much thought, pondering, and soul searching that goes along with finding/discovering your core beliefs.
BTW, is this the same situation spoken of a couple of months ago, in this same forum? Started by saramills?
Stephanie
BTW, is this the same situation spoken of a couple of months ago, in this same forum? Started by saramills?
You're absolutely right. I looked at the thread "What is the difference" from last August [url]http://forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=267102#post267102[/url] and there is an amazing similarity in these two situations.
"saramills" (an identity that was banned) posted at that time:
BTW, this is the same thread that "bigch" posted a link for on the previous page with the caption "familiar discussion".
"I know someone who is 15 years old and was speaking to the missionaries and she is pregnant and she is keeping her child but the missionaries told her if she joined the church they would encourage her to place the child for adoption."
"she told me they offended her so she stopped speaking to them."
"The girl I am speaking of is friends with my daughter. My daughter is 16 and will be 17 soon."
"she said she is keeping her child and her parents will help her while she finishes school. Her parents told her she cant ever speak to the mormons again because they offended her.
"The girl told me that she wishes the missionaries would of just minded their own business and I agree with her on that one."
"when I was taking the discussions back in 1992 they never said anything to me about being a single parent."
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