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My son who was adopted from Russia 1 1/2 yrs ago just went through a psych eval. The doctor said he has ADD, ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), possible FAE, low intellectual functioning and he is mentally about the age of a 4 yr old (although he is actually 10). He said there is RAD, although I think that is slipping away for him. He is very attached to me and my husband.
Anyone dealt with the ODD? I am looking and searching for answers as how to deal with it. I have ordered a book called 'Your defiant child' that the doctor recommended.
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In my opinion, the kids with ODD are the most difficult to deal with. They make you crazy as they wouldn't eat cookies if they thought you wanted them to.
One of the therapists we used suggested giving double bind senarios. "You can put you shoes on and get in the car or get in the car and them put your shoes on." I was suprised that it actually stopped them for a minute and sometimes it works.
Love and Logic helps some.
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Son is really hard to deal with some days! Sometimes logic goes out the door because he has a mentality of a 4 yr old but somewhere in there, he reaches a higher age with his oppositions.
I will try using the this or that approach that you are talking about. Some days, I could just pull out my hair!!
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My 10 year old sounds a lot like your son. Developmentally they are guessing about 5-6 years the biggest thing I did with her was structure structure structure. It made all the differance in the world we sometimes took 2 to 2 1/2 hours to get out the door in the morning it is down to 45 mins! I picked one battle at a time and the mornings was the biggest and the one that impacted so much. It also greatly helped that she could make cereal by herself so we did not have to interact much in the morning. We got out her clothes the night before and bookbag the night before. TV is also very controled in the house usually a reward especially in the morning if she is ready on time she gets to watch it. Good Luck
I am striving for to make sure things are as structured as possible. Sometimes that is really tough because I have two daughters also (one being his bio sister). My oldest is in JR high and is involved in many activities in school and with church (confirmation) so it makes it hard to keep every day the same schedule. Youngest daughter is in dance and piano lessons. The one thing that helps is that son and youngest daughter have piano lessons the same day, only a half hour apart, so we can keep that do on schedule every week.
I was soooo excited for son tonight because he got an invitation to a birthday party for Friday. The boy who is having the party is a very nice kid that has kind of taken son under his wing (this boy has a handicapped brother so he knows that it is okay to be different). This boy came to son's b-day party and has also been at our house for a day just hanging out.
Will strive for the structure and hopefully that will help him!