Deceased birthparents

December 9, 2003

For what it is worth, I visited my birthparents graves yesterday. As it turns out they have been gone for several years. The times in my late teen years when I was really struggling with an indentity crises and wondered where they were, they were already gone. The markers for their grave had a picture of each one so at least I now know what they looked like. It still would have been nice to meet them. I do not know if I have siblings but if you are out their, my birthparents names were Jack Skelton, deceased in 1987, and Peggy Louise Stines Skelton, deceased 1974 at the age of 31. This does bring some closure but not the closure I was hoping for. Just thought I would get that off my chest.

HappyMomAnna

December 9, 2003

I am so sorry to hear that you were not able to meet them....:(

I am sorry you had to see them this way....... I do hope that if you have siblings you can find them.

You might want to look at the old stories in the newspapers where they lived---especially around the dates of their passing--usually survivors of a loved one are mentioned.....

Again, I am very sorry for your loss.

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drcarothers

December 9, 2003

Thanks for your support and reply. I try to reply earlier but the net was malfunctioning.

December 9, 2003

I am also sorry that you did not have the opportunity to meet them. It sounds like they both died young ~ How very sad.

Did you check with the office at the cemetary to see if they had any information? Usually they have a record of who arranged and paid for the grave site at the very least. Also, they should have a record of the mortuary and the mortuary usually have records of next of kin etc. Plus the mortuary usually notifies the newpaper and submits the obituary and they would have the information that was given. Perhaps you might locate an Aunt, Uncle or other extended family as well as siblings.

Best of Luck to you! :)

shirleyville

December 10, 2003

Those are great suggestions!

You would be amazed at the information you can get from an obituary! I located my grandfather's obituary and it had the names of my birthmother, her sisters and my cousins!

I visited my birthgrandparent's graves, which happen to be about two minutes from me -- just down the road. It's a surreal experience, I know. I am so sorry for your loss, but perhaps something wonderful will come from this yet -- don't give up!

Keep us posted!

Sally

drcarothers

December 14, 2003

Thanks to everyone for the support, input, and suggestions. There has also been at least one birth uncle to pass away as well as the grandparents. The other aunts and uncles would be in their 70s if alive. I was able to find the obituary on my birthfather and there is or was at least a half brother and half sister. His name was listed as Randall Skelton of Somerville, TN and she was Lisa Fairweather of Covington, TN. However, this information is sixteen years old. It is a start though. I have not yet found an obituary on my birthmother. Thanks again to everyone.