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Hi Hoppi,
When I decided I was going to adopt, I filled out a questionaire for SWAN. A rep called me and then mailed me out a list of SWAN affiliated agencies to choose from. I chose one in West Chester because that's where I go to school and I felt comfortable with the area. My first phone call before this agencey was Chester County Children and Youth but the woman I spoke to directed to me to several other agencies that gave the parenting classes needed to start the homestudy. The boys that I am interested in are from the adoption.com photolisting.
Hi Hoppi,
When I decided I was going to adopt, I filled out a questionaire for SWAN. A rep called me and then mailed me out a list of SWAN affiliated agencies to choose from. I chose one in West Chester because that's where I go to school and I felt comfortable with the area. My first phone call before this agencey was Chester County Children and Youth but the woman I spoke to directed to me to several other agencies that gave the parenting classes needed to start the homestudy. The boys that I am interested in are from the adoption.com photolisting. I'm sorry I just re-read my posting. The agency said it shouldn't be a long process, not that it would be. I apologize for the mistake.
Hi Mikesmom
I still am alittle unclear. Does your state contract out with other agencies to do homestudies? The reason I ask is you don't have to pay for a homestudy to be completed through the states S/N adoption program. The children on the adopt.com site are considered that. It also can take forever to get one done depending on the workers' caseload and her enthusiasm! (Just my experience) Keep us posted and Good Luck.........
Hi Hoppi,
You know, I'm really not sure. When I atteded the parenting classes we were told that we would have to pay the 2500.00 in 3 installments of 833.00 each. Once we are matched then SWAN reimburses the agence and wet whatever monies we paid back. It took from late April to the end of August to complete the parenting classes, get the homestudy done and sign off on my family profile. So now I'm in the matching phase. There are a few matching evens coming up that I'll be going to. Hopefully it won't be that much longer.
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There are tons of moms over 40y/o and I am one of them.
I love being a mom at this age. You know life experience adds so much to raising a child. Plus it does keep you young.
We adopted a newborn when I was 44 years old. I feel like I do keep up with the mom' s 1/2 my age.
The only regret I have is that I won't probably be alive when she is in her 40's like my parents are. I have heard that from people who have older parents that adopt. They wouldn't change a thing about their parents but would change the age they were when they were adopted.
All the luck...age is relative...you take care of yourself and your more likely to live longer...
Kelly
Now ecs I have to disagree with you....stay positive about your age and being a grandparent. My inlaws were not grandparents until they were in their 70's and they love being grandparents and are very active with our children. I wait for that day with my children. So stay young and cherish each day and know that each day brings you closer to being a grandmother....(many years to come but good years to come)....lol
I am being considered for foster/adoption of a special needs child and am over 50!! I am a nurse and this child has many special medical needs, etc. I am thrilled to be considered for the privilege to raise this child (who has a shorter life span expectancy as well). My sister had a biological child at 46 & we have lots of "older" moms in our family). I feel like I am pushing the envelope, but at this point in life know a little more of what I want and what I am capable of than I would have when younger. So, I think it is unusual, but it is wonderful as well.
As for over 40 years old...I have the menapause cut off...my mom was 52 years old and some women are 55 years old when done with their periods. I am 46 and as long as could bear children...which I could at this age..I feel I can adopt young children I could still have a baby..logistically. Other people may disagree but I can't worry about what other people think...wonder if I regret it later. I also am in health care and I have seen 35 year olds look and be significantly less healthy then someone who is in their 50's...
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mrsdred, It is so great that your going to adopt again. Will you or have you had an open adoption with any of you kids. I feel weird in that I am almost dealing with my own pier group and their grandmas while I am just starting out. My daughter had an open one but I don't think they got what open adoption was...we gave them a book and talked to them extensively. I feel kind of ashamed that I am a nurse and I deal with people, at least on health care issues, on an ongoing basis and it seemed like they were still lost. I know that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. We want to adopt again but I don't want the same situation. At least we'll know how to handle it if it is. What situations did you experience with open adoption..good or bad??? If they were open???
Thanks,
Kelly
Plareb
I'm 44 and and with my sweet young thing of a husband at 35 we're hoping to adopt our first. I'm terrified that I won't have the energy either -- but I figured that'll be my excuse when I nudge hubby in bed and tell him it's his turn for the fifth time in a row! ;)
I do love hearing about folks my age who have young ones -- it gives me hope that I just might make it through to the college years!
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Hey All!
I am 48 and my DH 35. I have two children from my previous marriage one boy (28) and one girl (21). We have been married for 7 years and for the last 5 years have been thinking/discussing about adoption. We now have started the process to adopt from Ethiopia and we couldn't be happier. I have alot of love left to give and my children are happy to have another sibling.