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Hello all,
We are so new to this - my husband and I are just in need of some emotional support...and I'm almost ashamed to say we haven't even been waiting...well 'official adoption waiting' that long. We went through infertility for 3.5 years and started the adoption process in July 2003. We are now in the books as of January 2004.
Anyone have any good news they can share regarding Domestic African American/Bi-racial adoptions (i.e, How long was your wait and how was your experience?). We would love to hear it.
Anxiously awaiting in Delaware.
P.S. If there's anyone in our same predicament in DE, NJ, or PA, we'd be interested in chatting with you offline as well. Thanks again!
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OH MY GOD......
My story is EXACTLY like yours, 3.5 years of infertility (HSG/Laproscopy & who knows how many IVF's), starting our adoption journey in July 2003 until we were finished with all the paperwork and homestudy in January 2004.
The only thing that is different is we are not adopting african american/bi-racial we are adopting a hispanic child from Texas.
We are waiting for the call too. Our agency is working with 14 birthmothers right now so the call can come any month.
The way I look at it is the wait is at minimum 6 months for any child. Look at it this way:
1) You are a minimum of 1 month pg when you get a positive test result...sometimes more depending on the person
2) I can only imagine that it would take 1-2 months to make a complete adoption plan, from deciding to place your child for adoption to working with an agency
Right there You are cutting 3 months off a pregnancy to make it 6 months. If you are chosen right away, minimum of 6 month maximum of 1 yesr, if you are not chosen right away or there are not a lot of birthmothers.
OK so I dragged on, but I hope you get my picture ;)
Alison
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Hi
We are in the same boat. This will be our 3rd adoption. The first took a year, the second only two months. This time its already been almost 3 months and I still jump every time the phone rings. Our son is african-american and our daughter is caucasian. So far our experiences with our son has been nothing but positive but he is only 3. His hair did take a bit of trial and erroe but if you have any black friends that you feel comfortable asking, talk to them!