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Hi! I'm fairly new at this whole birthmom thing. I placed my son with his adoptive parents on January 1, 2004. He's only a little over 2 months old. I'm just wondering some of the reasons that other moms had for placing their child for adoption. Truth be told, I'm trying to write a paper for my English class in college, so I want to do a little more research and get some varying views. Some other questions I want to know: What goals did you make for yourself afterward? Have/Are you reaching any goals that you might have set for yourself when you placed your child? For example, for me, I wanted to be educated. So now I'm going to college for me and for my son. What have you learned about yourself through the adoption of your child? What wisdom do you have to pass on? Thanks for any information and wisdom you can pass on to me. :D
IsaacsMom
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It has been 21 years. I never regretted my decision, I still don't. I knew I couldn't give my daughter the kind of life I thought she should have.
I never did what I wish I would have. I should have gone to private pilot ground school. I should have followed my dream.
I have since had 4 more children, been married twice. I am finally in a place in my life that I know family is everything.
Back then, my family was in Fla and I was in IL. Back then, the man who is my baby's father was into drugs and I didn't want that for our daughter. Back then, I was not in the right frame of mind to raise her alone. I knew she could have it all, something I thought I couldn't give her.
Now, I am a stay at home mom, my husbands business is my business. My children all know about their sister and that I am open to contact with her.
I chose semi-open adoption, through Catholic Charities. I can only hope she wants to find me and have a relationship with me as much as I want to with her ....
Good Luck to you and live your life.
Make your child proud of you and make you proud of you....Thats all that really matters.
Linnea A.
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ms.holiday wrote..Her father is presently abusing drugs and is on welfare with a few more kids.
I caught some of Oprah today.. Her show was about people with 'Chutzpah'. When she was talking with one woman (who had surmounted terrible problems) she said.. "We are responsible for our own lives." She may have been quoting Maya Angelou..
I like that kind of thinking.. The birthfather took responsibility for nothing and you pulled yourself together.. Good on you!
Jackie