trying to adopt my step daughter

Hi! Well i am currently trying to adopt my 12 year old stepdaughter. I have been married to my husband for 10 months and been living with them for over 4 years. I have never met or talked to my daughters bio-mother and really i dont ever care to. We have never had a card for christmas or birthdays, no phone calls nothing. I feel bad for my daughter, every child deserves to be loved by their mother, but i'm also greatful. If not for her selfishness I wouldnt be in this situation with a wonderful and talented daughter. The only problem i am having is getting blown off by the lawyer. I have only talked to him twice and its driving me nuts. Its been since before christmas that we started this! He is suppoed to call tomorrow but if not i'm sicking my husband on him!:D I'm glad to know that i'm not the onlyone in this situation. I dont know what else to do and my daughter has half brothers that she wants to meet, i dont want this adoption to make that impossible. Its hard i guess. plus i'm only 22 which i think puts me at a disadvantage. I guess i feel like i've put in all the work while her bio mother gets the glory.....legaly anyways.