teen b-moms from ny?

You have to get a hold of Albany Ny they will let you register and let you know if any one is looking for you . Good luck !!!

My son's adoptive parents were also told that HIS birthmom was 15 and this was the reason she gave him up. This was not true. His mom was 18, and so was I (his dad) The truth was that the birthmom had mental health issues. Apparently the agency thought that this would make the baby less "sellable.: Take all such statements with a grain of salt. Best wishes on your search. If you were born in Northern NY, let me invite you to visit my website MISSING IN ADOPTION for all triad members from that area. [url]http://www.geocities.com/lrcorbett/adoption.html[/url]

Jen, was this a private adoption or through an agency like Catholic Charities? The other poster was right also. You can contact Albany, Vital Statistics, to get non id info. I think you can also try to get your BC there too. Do you know the name of the hospital? A birth Index is also helpful. This would tell you how many girls/boys were born on the same day as you. Then you can narrow it down to contact the ones that fit your info. I am just beginning my search myself, and I too am trying to learn the ropes!! I have time though since she is still a minor. I guess I just want to get all my ducks in a row in case she ever wants to know me. I wish you all the best and look forward to hearing if you find her. Jenn Birthmother to Rebecca Anne 03-11-87 Always in my heart!

Jen, I am a birthmom, I also gave birth at 15, in NY. It was way back in 1976, tho, so I guess that you aren't mine. I have recently started my search and I have some info for you. Go to the web site ISRR- International Soundex Reunion Registry- there is a form you can fill out and mail in. It puts all of your info out there for your mom to match up to. I just sent mine in yesterday, also, find all web sites you can, register on all, you never know where your mom may be looking. Read all threads on this forum that sound even close or are for somebody you can relate to. You will need all the support you can get, cause sometimes this takes awhile. That being said: let me fill you in on the mindset of this 15 year old birthmom. When I had my daughter, it was one of the best days of my life, she filled my heart with a love I had never felt before. I wanted to keep her, and managed to hold on to her for 6weeks, I was able to do this by leaving her at the infant home, I was not allowed to take her home. I went every day, after school to visit her, I fed her, gave her baths, put her to bed. Then I would have to leave her behind, and go home. At 6 weeks, they made me make up my mind, I could not take the baby home, as my mother was dead, and my Father was in poor health, a well-meaning social worker, pushed me to sign the adoption papers, stating it would be for the best. That was the worst day of my life. I have never stopped hoping that I will see my daughter again. I will do everything in my power to find her. You must remember that at 15, you have no rights, you have to have a place to take your baby home to, and most parents do not want thier children bringing home a baby. Most of them are worried that they will have to raise the child. Don't hold it against your mother, she probabley had the same problems as I did. Keep looking, I bet she wants to find you too. Robinsmom-Colleen

I was a birthmom at the age of 15 also. Back then (1968) it was almost unheard of for a teen to keep her baby. Times have changed since then! I was able to hold on to my son for 5 days and in that 5 days I grew to love him more and more. I will never forget his little face. Every year I have a silent birthday party for him and pray that one day, we will meet. If you know what agency handled the adoption, go there and ask questions. See if they will look in the file. My son has several letters waiting for him to tell him why I gave him up and any time I move, I update the address for him. As I drove through Binghamton last year going home to visit, I stopped at the agency to make sure my letters were still there for him, and they were. It can't hurt to try. I am curious, what part of New York were you born in? Good Luck........hope my son tries to find me! Pat

unfortunatley i dont know what agency handled my adoption- my a-mom mentioned something to me about a lawyer being involved so im guessing that i was not adopted through an agency. i was born in good samaritan hospital (in west islip) but i have very little knowledge about my b-mom. its hard to search for someone i know virtually nothing about. its frustrating.

Jen, Please take my advice and register with the new york state birth registry, and also go on line and print up a copy of the form for the ISRR. It is also a registry, but covers more area. You have to mail it in. Between the two, they found my daughter, just a few days after, I wrote you on this forum. We have been reunited since then. They can work wonders, and you will be surprised how quickly that phone call comes. Its worth the trouble, to fill out all the forms, it just so happend that my daughter, was also looking for me. It was a snap. So please, all of you, try it. Maybe you can find the people you are hunting for too.\ Colleen

thanks for the advice - i already registered with bot issr and the new york state registry in febuary. i got aletter back saying that they recieved my info in albany but also said it could take up to a year just to recieve non identifying info about my b-mom. im running out of options yet i dont want to pay someone to find my birthmother for me. i feel like its something i should do- for myself.

Jen, How much info do you have. Do you know anything, or is there anybody you can ask, such as a relative of your adopted family. There must be somebody who knows something, and is willing to talk. Even an old family friend. It seems like you are just missing a small peice that could tie all this together. Even the name of the agency or lawyer, could be traced, are there no copies of your adoption papers that you could get a look at? There has to be something. Do you know, where in NY you were born. If you did, there may be a way to track your birth that way. Let me know, if you find anything that could help, I will give you any information I can, in as what you can do to find things out. Let me know. I to agree, you should not pay somebody to find out, what you have a right to know. You will feel much better, if you do it yourself. Don't close the door, on us, we can help guide you in the right direction. Talk to you soon. Colleen

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Hello Jen, Are you sure it was Good samaritan hospital. I am searching for my daughter i had gave up for adoption. I was 15 at the time. it was a long island hospital. please contact me at luvmygiz@aol.com. so we can talk some more.