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... is that the tpr on these children is still in process and parents may be providing enough interactions to hold same at this time ... thus making them not-legally free for adoption. A permanency plan may be drawn calling for an at-risk placement which then you will have to decide if you can handle should the tpr not go through ... from past experience they are probably a year or so away from tpr if parental interactions are still involved. Often in cases like these, depending on the age of the children and the abuse history, a psychological is done to see if they are adoptable and that too may play a fact in their eligibility. Hope this helps.

Hi Mary, Thanks for all the information. It did help alot. Talked to a social worker yesterday from C&Y (on a personal level) who thought the same. Told me the psychological was probably being done on the parents/guardian. I don't understand why the childrens picture is on the adoptpakids website instead of just leaving them in foster care until this decision is made. It states on the page, " Parental rights will be terminated upon acceptance of adoptive family"??? To me, if you are placing a child on a website for adoption, the rights should already be terminated. I DO understand the system wanting to keep these children with their parents if possible, and that's what we want, if appropriate for the children. It is just very hard for the family waiting to hear the outcome. BUT...I am a very strong person and can wait as long as it takes. God is in charge and His will will be the best for all involved. Thanks again for all of your help. I'll keep you posted. Cheryl

Once I asked my caseworker about "parental rights will be terminated upon acceptance of an adoptive family".. Her answer was that in Pennsylvania there are no orphans and that once they have a family ready to finalize, they terminate the rights and the family adopts simultaneously. My new daughter has been in my home for nearly 7 weeks and her photo and profile is still on the Pae web site. This really urks me because I know that people are calling about her and hoping for a match and she is already placed here. It is so misleading. I know that I have called about many many kids who were already visiting with a matched family. Also there are more kids available than those on the web site. My caseworker had a thick book of kids who were considered hard to place. Maybe if these children were on the site they wouldn't be so hard to place after all. There are so many people waiting and so many kids available, I can't for the life of me understand what the hold up is on finding a match. Oh well, I may just be having a bad day, but I had to get that off my chest. I am really pulling for you and those four kids, and I'll continue to keep you in my prayers. NJ

Spoke to the caseworker AGAIN yesterday, as Mondays are matching day. She only offered more confusion. Stated their is an interactual taking place 6-15 at the home where the children were placed????? But also stated that the foster family was not going to adopt???? Why doesn't she just tell me what the h*** is going on? Plan on calling our caseworker today to see if she can find out anymore. We would just like to know if we have a chance or not, and if the children are or aren't up for adoption. Looks like nothing is going to happen until after the 15th. And I do believe their is another tentative family interested. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Not even THIS Satan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hi nrj. Always a pleasure to vent with you...lol

Please keep us updated, we're pulling for you. If they said there is an interested family and not a chosen family, then it sounds like you at least have a chance and thats a positive thing. Your caseworker will be able to find out the details. Hang in there, this part is very stressful, but I f you can get an interview that would be wonderful!!!!! Good Luck, we'll keep our fingers crossed!!! Nanci