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This question is for someone considering placing their child up for adoption. I have been told by a number of individuals that a single parent is not what birthparents are looking to place their child with. I am curious as to why? If I as a single person have a great support network - why not select me?
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I agree with what Christine said - I wanted my child to have a mom and a dad. I could already provide him a mom - but I couldn't provide him a dad. I also think that boys need a positive male influence growing up and I wanted my son to have that..... Not to say that there were not others that could have been good role models for my son, such as my Dad or brother - but I just think a boy needs a dad.
I think its up to the individual tho - there are some pbmoms and bmoms who think placing with a single mom is ok, its just a personal opinon.
Good luck!
Coley
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At the time of my daughters placement, I was already a single mom, and I was totally open to a single male or female parenting her, but was never presented with that opportunity.
Every birthmother has their own idea of what they want. Is it likely to be a longer wait for a domestic placement? Maybe҅I think if you got your name out there, did some networking on your own, and set up a profile on line you would have no problem finding a match.
I've heard of birthmoms saying they were raised by a single mom and felt okay with placing their baby with a single mom, but for me, it was not an option. I wanted my child to have two parents.
Of course, you never know - a birthmom might be flipping through Dear Birthmother letters and a single mom might catch her eye because there's something about that woman in particular.
I would certainly include mention of your strong support network, close family, etc. in your conversations with birthmoms.