Looking for Son born 6/3/1981

I am looking for my son. He was born on June 3, 1981 at Danbury Hospital., Danbury, CT. His birth name was Thomas James Eglinton and the adoption was handled through Catholic Charities in Danbury CT. I have wanted to do this sooner and contacted the birth father yesterday to let him know I was doing this. The birthfather has never married and has no other children. It has been 23 tortuous years for me. Not a day has gone by that I haven't thought about you. Your birth initials are tattooed around my ankle. I am married now and have an 11 1/2 year old daughter and a 9/12 year old son. Any advice would also be appreciated because I don't really know where or how to start. Dawn-