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Hello, I was hoping that an adoptive parent or even soon to be parent was willing to answer this question...
Would you be willing to have your child take a DNA test if you weren't sure if the birth father was really the child's birthfather or not? If on your papers you saw the names of the birth parents and was TOLD that the birth parents were the ACTUAL birth parents, but then found out that the father could maybe not be your child's birth father? In a situation where the birth mother couldn't name the exact birth father, just chose one... someone who had no option for a dna test? Would you want to be able to have the truth ready there for your child if ever needed?
I'm a very concerned parent of 2 children. My husband could possibly be the birth father of someone out there. Although he signed the papers saying that he was the father, no one ever gave him the option of a paternity test. My concern is that there's a child out there who will never know his or her real birth father (if they one day want to know) if a dna test is not done.
Could any adoptive parent or potential parent please share their thoughts?
I truly do appreciate your time.
sophiaG
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I am a adad to a son that his bmom did not know exactly who the dad was. The bdad that was finally designated was designated because he failed to show up for the dna test (he was in jail in another state at the time). It is not certain that he was the bfather but he is the one that was charged with child support and was legally considered to be the bdad. When we went through the adoption process we did not care if he had taken the dna test to prove 100% that he was the bdad, we just needed his signature terminating his rights. Our ason was just about 7 when we adopted him, we actually did an in family adoption (adopted wifes nephew). SS was in the process of terming bmoms rights and bdad did not want a kid but he could not or did not want to pay for another dna test out of his pocket.
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dear sledge,
i so very much appreciate your answer. thank you for not attacking me:) My husband would like to take the dna test for our family's sanity. We have 2 children ourselves and would like to be able to tell them (when the time is right) that they have a sister out there. I would like to give them the chance (if she is my husband's daughter) to know her when they turn of age. My son is actually only 7 months younger than our possible daughter. We're not looking to take her away. We're definetly not looking to disrupt this family. We just need some closure in our lives. I feel like my husband (and the rest of the family) was cheated out of a chance to know the truth.
Anywho, I thank you so much for your answer.:)