Adopting Older African American Children

Well, I hope so, but our son's birthmother's family, who are AA, were the classic not-supportive of adoption outside of the family. She did not tell them about the adoption until she went home, after our son was about 3 months old, and that contributed to their negative feelings (she'd been telling them she was parenting; her mom literally expected her to walk off the plane with the baby). I will say that after an initial rocky start, her family has been accepting of us and willing to have contact, but I do think they still feel our son's brithmom made the wrong decision in placing Ryan for adoption. Her mother specifically mentioned a cousin or someone who had recently adopted (out of the family), with the implication that she could've adopted our son instead. We are CC, and I know that's a separate issue. But I certainly hope that formal adoption is becoming more accepted in the AA community, both for AA families and other ethnicities, as there are so many childrem, especially AA children, waiting to be adopted. That was one of the reasons we chose to adopt transracially.