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I was wondering, do you think the nonidentifying info that you send your money for is the truth because My adopted mom told me many years ago that my birth mom was around 30 when she had me, and different stuff, but when I contacted the agency to ask her name and age and stuff they told me that she was 25 and told me her name first name only but, for some reason, I don't beleive this info, they also told me that I would have to pay for the rest of the nonidentifying info file. Do you think that they alter this some what and why, did anyone eles gets false info? I just don't know if I want to waste my money and it not be the truth. what would you do? Thanks for listening. from Mississippi.
Do you think that they alter this some what and why, did anyone eles gets false info?
I don't think they would alter it. It wouldn't be legal for them or benefit them to do it. Plus, if they got caught doing this, they could get into big trouble. There are laws and they could possibly lose their license by doing that. If they did it with one person, they would do it with others as well. It would be a big risk for them to get caught.
If anything, they might have wrong information by error, but I doubt if that is the case.
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Speaking from experience.. Non ID can be very deceptive. It really depends on what year the child was born. In the case of my mother - 1950 - the Agency ( Gladney) gave very deceptive information .. and also changed the Birthmothers name. I know this because i saw the records which i paid dearly for and we have now found my "grandmother" the birthmother.
They changed several letters in name to make it a completely different name.
Some of the newer Non IDs give a little more info. There is also a great website .. adoptionsearching.com
go to the bottom page and click on the name "david gray" this takes you to the "secret" place that some paid searchers use. It is a data base of "inf ofs".. Meaning..
A list containing names and last known addresses of Birthmothers who may had an "unnamed child" which 99% of the time means the child was given up for adoption.
There are many tools out there to use with the NON ID .. for instance.. if it is copys - and the "important stuff" is blacked out .. there may be ways to decode.
I personally have very little faith in Non Ids since they did us absolutely no good and were not right down to the fact they said the birthmother attended college.. which she did not. Little things like that and the name.. I dont trust them.
Good luck
My info was right on when compared to the whole file I got a couple of years later. It seems like there were a couple of things my a-mom didn't remember correctly, but then, she had practically zilch for info.
TrinityAngel's absolutely right. Changing that info would be very similar to changing birth records at a hospital. I got my info from the state - no way would they do it, and I'd bet private agencies are inspected and audited with regards to records by government employees.
Warmly, heartbeat
My BD got the non-ID info from her aparents, and when I spoke to her for the first time she told me about what there was and it was right on. But that was from a medium populated county in Michigan regarding an adoption in 1981, so...maybe it depends on a lot fo different things...
good luck... :flower:
If your mother went through an adoption agency, yes, there are some that change the info you are looking for. Try going to your state's Department of Human Resources, Birth Records, etc. Use all the info you have and register on all of the free searching for ** sites you can find. Good luck in your search and be careful of any site that wants to charge you as they are expensive and not always accurate.
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