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My husband and I are just getting started in the adoption process. There seems to be information overload on the internet, but it's all so confusing.
We're married nearly 12 years and have unsuccessfully been able to become pregnant. I'm 34 and he'll be 43 next week.
What got us "started" in pursuing adoption is that a friend of mine knows of a woman local to us that is currently pregnant and is giving the baby up for adoption. We immediately said that we were interested in adopting the baby without knowing anything other than the baby is due this October. Just last evening, my friend told me that I shouldn't get my hopes up on adopting this child because the birthmother prefers that the baby reside in a different state.
So here I am today.
We haven't signed up with an agency at this point, but we have sat with an attorney a week ago. Our preference is to adopt a caucasian infant via "private adoption". He suggested that we contact a "third party" to get the ball rolling. We don't know where to start.
We live in southeastern PA (approx. 30-40 minutes west of KOP). There don't seem to be any agencies local to us that specialize in the type of adoption we're seeking.
Any help/suggestions on how to begin would be greatly appreciated.
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My son was adopted thru a private adoption, but from our town. The nurse at my OB/Gyn office was our "agent", was responsible to get info to our attorney who contacted the birth parents, etc. We got him at age 2 days and parental rights were terminated after we had custody of him for 30 days and the adoption was final when he was 8 months old. Since we didn't go thru an agency, we did things backward, our homestudy and stuff was done after we had him instead of before. Our "agent" brought him to our home from the hospital, we never had contact with the birth parents. Hope this is a little help, ours was 21 years ago.
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Mrs V
I live about 10 minutes from KOP!
DDs adoption was private - we only used an attorney for relinquishments, finalization, etc. We took her home (well, to the hotel) when she was 4 days old.
We did our own advertising - no third party. We had a website and that is how DDs bmom first contacted us. Have you considered going that route?
PM me if you have any questions or need any other info. I'd be happy to share with you how we got started.
Stephanie
Thank you for your interest in my post and for your reply. I almost forgot I had this post out there!
I am still childless because of the amount of money it costs to adopt, which I find quite disturbing. It's hard enough to deal with the reality of not being able to conceive a child with a man I married and committed my life to more than 13 years ago, but to have a "high pricetag" on wanting to care for a child that the birthparents don't have the means for is very hard to comprehend. I realize that there are the new tax laws and that quite a bit of my money would be returned to me, but it's the point of having to raise so much money and pay at once that has me by the throat. And obviously, I'm not living in an area where "private adoptions" are common practice.