Birth Mother Found

C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S ! How wonderful for you both to be able to be in contact again after all these years. I sincerely hope you can build a special relationship that will be with your forever. I am a firstmother and just this past Holiday season found my 36 year old daughter and we have been in contact thru emails and phone calls and have come to learn so much about each other and have developed our relationship slowly and steadily. We are both in the US but on opposite coasts so we have not be able to meet in person yet -- but when we do meet we will already have built a loving and caring relationship which will make that meeting all the more meaningful and comfortable. Good luck and best wishes to you and your now enlarged family. Aishlin

congradulations to you and your family ...Im still looking but Im running out of knowhow I lost a child to c.a.s in scarborough he was made a crown ward til hes 18 hes now 19-20 and I dont know where to look cause Im not sure if he was adopted or not ..nobody told me otherwise and I havent had any contact with those people afterwards....cindy in lindsay ontario :confused: :( I left an abusive situation and he kept the baby then lost him,then I couldnt get him back

Congratulations from me too!! :) That really is wonderful news. Distance can be a bit of an obstacle but believe me..if you want to meet someone..you will certainly find a way!! I was born in Toronto and my adoption took place in Ontario. My a/family immigrated to New Zealand when I was a young girl. I was fortunate enough that my search resulted in contact with my birthmom, birthdad and three full sibs ( my b/parents married 5 years after relinguishing) They now live in Nova Scotia. Distance is a major obstacle for us :eek: Despite this, I flew to Canada in July 2003 and spent some time with my birthfamiy. My birthmom and birthdad have recently made the trip over here - we spent Xmas and New Year together this year!! We actually spent 6 weeks together and they met my family. I am sure you will all meet soon and I wish you all every happiness as you establish and nurture the new relationships in your lives. Best Wishes to you all :)

Cindy - have you contacted the CAS?? My adoption was handled by the Childrens Aid in Toronto....believe it or not I spent my early years growing up in Scarborough..small world!! Give them a call and ask them to send out the paperwork. You can apply for non-identifying information. You can also register with the Adoption Disclosure Register in Ontario. If he has registered and you do too there will be a match and you shouldn't have to wait for a search to be conducted. If not then you will need to wait until "your number comes up"....unfortunately there is a delay in searches being conducted by C.A.S. There is no time like the present so maybe get the ball rolling and give them a call.. Good Luck!

Sonya.... CONGRATULATIONS................... Cindy.... I was registered with Canadian Adoptees Registry. The wonderful ladies there located my daughter thru parent Finders NB last January. We have exchanged letters and photos, but have yet to make direct contact. One little step at a time!!!! [url]www.canadianadopteesregistry.org[/url] Give them a try and best of luck with your search. "K"

hi thx for the reply, I got ahold of the adoption disclosure Unit in toronto ontario and they told me that he WAS actually adopted so I have to write a letter to them asking for info on him or the a-parents.....do you have any tips as to what to put in this letter ? the one I did write my mom says I should just act like I gave him up but , the trouble with that is I didnt he was taken off my ex-husband after I left him!!!!then he'll hate me If I lie about it all, what do you think I should do????? PLEASE HELP ME :(

just give the general info. Your name, including maiden name and your date of birth, his fathers name, date of birth, city, your sons birth name, date of birth, hospital, city. Justtell them you are searching for your biological child and understand they placed him for adoption in or around 19--. They will have everything on file. If they told you that he was adopted, then they will have all the info. That is the basic info they require. They will give you the non ID info. I believe they then will contact your son and inform him that his bio mom has contacted them and ask for permission to forward the necessary info. As for your letter to him, when you get to that point, keep it simple and and basic facts. Add a couple of pictures and say lots of prayers. Sometimes it happens over night, sometimes it takes forever. I am chuckling to myself... someoe asking me for advice, when I have been waiting for over a year for direct contact with my 26 yr old daughter. She (understandably) has some issues with her loyalty to her AParents and contacting her Bparents. At least we are at peace with knowing that she has had a very happy, successful life and was adopted by a very loving family. We have pictures to admire and continue to wait until SHE is ready. What more can I ask for. Good luck and keep us posted. Everyone around has big strong shoulders and we are all here for one another. "K

thank you so much ,just one more question ok...do they have to let him know Im searching??????

you lost me with that one. Why would you not want him to know you are searching? I would assume they would tell him, otherwise, why would they contact him. I suppose you could get the non id info and tell them that you are not ready to proceed any further just yet. I ahve heard, but don't know how accurate it is, that they only give it one shot. Good luck "K"

no I Want him to know I was curious if they Will tell him ehehehhe...I was told they dont have to if they dont want to tell him,Im hoping they will be nice enough to tell him!!!!

hello there thx for the reply on my son I have contacted the cas and they are waiting on my letter for non Id info from me .....

Albeit hard to do.... don't sit by the mailbox waiting.....it takes months and months..... your anxiety level will skyrocket. Please keep us posted. "K"