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First, let me state that I am still in the research phase of adoption so forgive my "less than intelligent" question:D
For those whose adopted children were not newborn.. how do you go about "bonding" prior to finalization? Are you given scheduled time to spend with the child (and sw) during the process to make sure there is some sort of "connection" or do you get placed with a child and hope for the best with the bonding....:confused:
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A LOT depends on the type of adoption you are pursuing.
If the child is in the USA, he/she will be placed with you for probably 6 months or more before you could finalize the adoption. That's 6 months of living with the child, with plenty of time to try and practice any way of bonding you think best. Depending on the child's case worker and the age of the child, you may get visits before the child moves in, or telephone calls, or the child may have a photo album of you, etc.
But if you are adopting a child from another country, the time you will spend with the child will definately vary. Some countries want you to spend a few weeks with the child, some a few hours a day for a few weeks, some a few hours for a few days, sometimes you may only have the child for a few hours before finalizing, and there are even countries that will finalize an adoption before the parents even meet the child.
That probably raises more questions with you than answers, but you can certainly see the range of variation and why saying the type of adoption you're pursuing is an important part of this question.
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