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I gave my daughter up for adoption three years ago Sunday - October 24....It was such a horrible day...Last year her birthday did not really bother me....But this year it hit me like a ton of bricks....My adoption is an open adoption..But I have not seen my daughter in 2 years....She is only a few hours from me....But I still haven't seen her in so long....Her adoptive parents see my mother all the time.....They write to her, call her, e-mail her and send her all the good pictures!...I do get a letter here and there with a blurred picture, but thats it....I have just been so depressed this week....On Sunday I just stayed in my room and cried for hours and hours...If I could just see her for 5 minutes, it would make my entire year.....I have been working on a scrapbook for her since she was born, but I can't seem to get it right or finish it...I just keep on taking it apart and starting over....I hate this time of year....It just brings back so many memories of the day I gave birth to my beautiful little girl and that same day I let her go....I'm sorry this is just a really hard time of the year for me...I am just hurting..
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Her aparents may be sending these things to your mom in hopes that she will relay info to you or give you pics. They may be afraid you are hurting and that contact with them will cause you more pain. I suggest writing them a letter saying how you are doing and ask for them to contact you instead of your mom. Just tell them you are ready for the contact. They are probably afraid of causing you pain or hurting you more with the contact. Hope your weekend went alright.
I kind of get the feeling that my mother is the one telling them not to contact me..Thats what bothers me....My mom kind of took control of the situation...But it makes me mad, because she never even knew that I was pregnant throughout my whole pregnancy...She didn't find out until I was about to give birth and one of the nurses called her.....I don't know what to do...I am just confused.
Talk to your mom. Ask her about her relationship with them. I know I would be upset if my mom took over my relationship with Kara's parents. I would be VERY hurt by that. Just talk to her and send the acouple an update on you and share with them your desire to have them contact you DIRECTLY rather than going through your mom. Let us know how it turns out.