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I WOULD CALL A LAWYER IN YOUR STATE AND GET SOME INFO FROM THEM I HAD A BIRTHMOM WHO WANTED ME TO ADOPT HER BABY WE MEET EVERYTHING WAS SOUNDING GOOD BUT WHEN I CONTACTED A LAWYER I WAS TOLD THAT I COULD NOT HAVE A CONTRACT WITH A BIRTHMOTHER UNTIL THE BABY WAS 3 DAYS OLD AND I LIVE IN THE STATE OF MISSISSIPPI SO THE LAWS IN YOUR STATE COULD BE DIFFERENT.I WAS TOLD NOT THE PAY FOR ANYTHING BECAUSE I COULD NOT GET ANY OF IT BACK IF SHE CHANGED HER MIND WITHIN THE FIRST 72 HOURS. THE BIRTHMOTHER WORKED FOR A FRIEND SO I FELT SHE KNEW HER SO I COULD TRUST HER BUT SHE TOLD ME THIS AND THAT AND SHE WOULD CHANGE THING ALONG THE WAY THAT MADE ME NERVESS . I PLANNED TO PAY HER EXPENSES FOR THE BABY AND HER RENT FOR A FEW MONTHS DURING THE END OF THE PREGNACY WELL SHE QUITE HER JOB BEFORE SHE EVEN SEEN THE DOCTOR AND WANTED ME TO PAY ALL HER BILLS AND RENT NOW AND I EXPLAINED TO HER THAT I WOULD PAY EVERYTHING IN THE END JUST KEEP A LIST BUT SHE DID NOT WANT THAT SHE WANTED TO SIGN A PAPER WITH ME SAYING SHE WOULD GIVE UP THE BABY SO I WOULD PAY EVERYTHING BUT SHE DID NOT UNDERSTAND THAT THAT PAPER WOULD NOT BE LEGAL AND I COULD BE PAYING FOR EVERYTHING AND SHE STILL COULD KEEP THE BABY AND I WOULD BE OUT OF 5-$10000 BE SAFE SEE A LAWYER DEBBIE

Thank you very much for your information. We offered to pay everything for her and she told us not to worry about that, so for that i am relieved, but i will definatly look into what my state says. I am in Indiana and she is in New Jersey. She told us she has a friend who is a family lawyer and he will do everything on her end. I hope she is right in that aspect. I would really hate for something small to mess this up. Thank you again, and please feel free to email me any other advice you have.

I know here in AR you have to have an approved homestudy also. Your lawyer will make sure you have one done if you don't already. He/ she should be able to walk you through the steps, which hopefully shoulnd't be many.