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Hi, We are currently starting the adoption process for my son. My son is 12 and would like to be adopted by my husband of 7years. My sons father is in jail for domestic violence etc... I just sent him a letter to the jail explainning what my son wants and telling him that I will be at the jail sat am with a notary for his consent. If the bio-dad refuses.(he has a long history of drug/alcohol abuse and about 6 years abondoment until I reintroduced him to his son) can the social worker in her report show that bio-dad is unfit or will I have to sue him and ask for another court date showing his laundry list of ugliness. Can't I just show the social worker his list ? so she can write it all in a report. unclear... this all doesn't seem fair to us, when my husband has stepped up to the plate and has been a excellent dad, that we need to just threw lots of hoops. Please advise
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My husband and I are in the same situation. (almost exactly). We have gone to a lawyer (costly, but a life saver). The Bio dad has contested it, we think out of spite. We will be going to trial in January to plead our case to the Judge to get his parental right taken away.
My advise it not to try to do this on your own. have a lawyer. This forum has been very helpful to us as far as info and know that we are not the only ones out there that is going through this. Also to know that it seems that the good parents win these battles but it is just a matter of going through the stress to get the end result.
But basically if he contests you will have to take him to court and air his dirty laundry and the judge will have to make a ruling....
good luck....
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Hi, Thanks...this is all very stressful..and my son doesn't understand why the process is so complicated. I'm hoping that since bio-dad is in jail and me showing and having the sherrifs all around, bio-dad might be intimidated and will just sign. Thanks again and Good Luck to you. Khristine
keep in touch with your progress....
hopefully all will end well. but also be prepared for the worst as well. i have had to learn this the hard way. As our lawyer has pointed out to us they (bio dad) have rights (crazy enough) and they can act on them, even if it is to make it harder, hurtful and more stressful on those of us that are doing the right thing....
be positive and know all your facts... it will be stressfull but we are all doing the right thing for our kids...