What do you remember?

October 31, 2005

Hello everyone,

My husband and I are officially waiting for a referral for our future child from Korea, and I wanted to ask adult adoptees what your parents said to you about your adoption that really stuck with you and made you feel secure and loved? What about those tough times of teenage rebellion? Were they ever able to comfort or soothe those feelings of loss/abandonement with their words? I've been reading up on this and talking to adopted friends, but I thought any additional stories that you could share would be really helpful for our future child!

Thanks, Amy

jeanette reno

November 1, 2005

I was lucky I never had feelings of loss or abandonment.

Well nothing I was consciensly(sp) aware of anyway. Honestly during the teenage rebellion years I don't think words could have reassured me at all. I can't recall anything specific that was said to me to make me feel secure and loved. My amom just always told me how special I was because I was chosen and she always told me my bparents loved me so much they gave me to someone who could take very good care of me (since they were so young when I was born). And even during the horrible teenage years she still told me how much she loved me even when I told her I hated her (wich of course I never hated her it was a 13 year old thing to do).

Good luck with your adoption, and the dreaded teenage years. :D

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tannapuppy

November 2, 2005

Times must be very exciting for you right now.

I think that you are going to get diffrent thoughts, obviously, for all situations are diffrent. I always grew up knowing that I was adopted. I had two other brothers, one older & one younger. I never at one time felt that I was diffrent from them. We carried on our lives as most families do. I just always thought it was pretty cool that I was adopted. I felt like it was something very special. My parents told me all the information that they knew about my bio family & NEVER said anything negitive about them. They would just say that she knew that she could not take care of me & she wanted to do the next best thing for me. To let me grow up in a loving family that could care for me and love me as much as she did.