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For all those that were adopted:
I was placed for adoption 33 yrs ago in Las Vegas. I found out I was adopted when I was 7 or 8. For years, I had such hate and hurt in my heart for what my birth mom did. I had feelings of being "unloved" and "unwanted". Now, at age 33, I realize that isn't the case, at all. My birthmom, just like all birthmoms, had to make the most heart wrenching decision that any parent would have to make. Giving up your child. 99% of birth moms don't do it "just because". They do it to give us a better home, a better life, a better chance at survival. Making the decision to put me up for adoption, was the most SELFLESS act of love, any human being could make. She knew, even though I grew inside her, that she couldn't give me the life she wanted too. She couldn't emotionally take care of me. So, she made the very difficult descison to place me up for adoption. Just as many of your birth moms did. Look inside your hearts and your souls. Realize this one thing.........SHE TRULY PROVED UNCODITIONAL LOVE TO YOU!!
God Bless you all,
Julie
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Julie -
I couldn't agree with you more. It's very true that they did what they thought was best for us and that was the most heart wrenching decisions of their lives. I too am adopted and never had any animosity or bitterness towards my bmother. I was born in a time where out of wedlock births were considered "taboo" by some and just not accepted as in today's society.
Duchie
sincityjules, that was a really nice post. I always wanted to find my bmom and was going to search . . . someday . . . she just happened to start searching sooner. I never had animosity; I had pain, questions, confusion, but no anger that I can recall. I started dating my hubby when I was 16 and one of the many things I made him promise me was that someday he would help me find her. I remember coming home from the hospital with my first born, looking at her and crying, hubby asked me what was wrong and I said "I need to find her and tell her I'm ok." I thought that was nice of you to take the time to say what so many of us feel.
There were times when i thought it was my fault. there were times i hated my bmom and there were times i couldnt stop loving my bmom and understing that she did it for the best. turns out it was out of lvoe and that even though she gave us up it didnt stop the love she had for us. if anything it strengthen it.
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