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Though it is policy that the reasons behind a members banning is not a topic of discussion, recent events demanded that some clarification be made.
It has been discovered that a banned member has been spreading vicious emails to members of the forum disparaging Brandy's character and actions. Personal emails are not by any means something we can sensor and control but we do wish to clarify that the information given in these emails is one sided and much of the information is completely false.
We had kept this situation a private matter out of respect and are saddened that the member chose to take the issues public. Brandy was forced by these turn of events to respond publicly to avoid further accusations.
The decisions made behind the scenes were of a team effort and unfortunately Brandy is being blamed for this effort as she was chosen to field this situation. When a situation as this occurs, the moderators do not wish to participate publicly as a group in order to avoid the appearance that we are ganging up on a member. While it may appear that Brandy was singling out a member, please know this is not true. There was no vendetta, nor was it a decision made solely by Brandy to investigate the situation that we, as moderators needed to do in order to protect the forum as a whole.
Additionally, there have been rumors circulating that can be accounted for nothing better than spiteful gossip. Some very personal, sensitive and private matters were told from one member to another in confidence and then turned around to be used as a malicious and hurtful weapon. Please make that cycle stop, be considerate of all and get information from the source.
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Please be advised the moderators made a unified and informed decision in this situation. Although Brandy made the public statements, she was fully supported by myself and I was fully informed of her actions.
The moderating team operates as a TEAM and consultation always occurs between moderators before action is taken. This should publically address the impression that a single moderator can make a unilateral decision.
Jen
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I realize it is frustrating when not all the facts and information can be publicly discussed, especially when only one side of the issue is out there to see.
However, its important to realize that we truly do have the best interest of the forum in mind. We work hard to ensure this is a safe place for everyone involved and work together as a team to accomplish that. It is difficult at times to see that there are valid reasons for things the moderating team does or says, especially when a single moderator is the only one publicly saying anything.
Brandy was not on a quest nor did she hold a personal vendetta against the banned member. If anything, she made the difficult choice to be the one to handle the situation. Please respect her for that instead of berating her for doing her job.
In regards to other members being accused in these emails; let me also take this opportunity to make it clear that no one but the moderators were involved at all in the process. ItҒs important to remember that we all need to accept responsibility for our own words and actions. Unfortunately there are some who cannot do that and blame anyone and everyone but themselves.
Hopefully we can move past this and focus instead on our individual purposes for being here, whether it is for support, camaraderie, education and awareness, or whatever it may be.
Regards,
Crick
Please note that there has not been anyone named as to who has been spreading hurtful gossip. It does not matter so much who is saying what specifically, but that bitter, hurtful words are being exchanged in secret and it needs to stop. If you have received any such emails or messages, please kindly inform the sender that you are not comfortable with the topic.
It is just best to assume that if you didn't get anything like that from anyone you know, it wasn't anyone you know. :)