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Sweet Jesus, I just spoke to my birthfather, and I think I'm going to throw up! Don't get me wrong, its not a bad throwing up, I just didn't think it would be this quick! I mean, I only sent the letter yesterday (gotta love the post office)!
Okay, deep breath... Anyway, I only got a lead from an internet search service a few weeks ago and I wasn't even sure it was him, but IT IS! Oh God, what do I do now? I was in such shock (good shock, I think) I agreed to meet him this weekend, a 2 1/2 hour drive from me, but hey, I used to live in Houston, nothing's close to anything any more.
I guess my situation is a little different, my parents divorced and my birthfather allowed my mother's new husband to adopt me (they divorced a couple of years later, ikky situation), and I met him again when I was 12, so I was able to remember enough to search. I'M 39 YEARS OLD NOW!!!
It was WEIRD!!!!
This is my question (one of many). What do we talk about? How do I ask him what I want to know without sounding like an interrogation? WHAT DO I DO NOW????
HEEELLLLLPPPP!!!
Thanks for letting me have my neurotic hissy fit, I feel better now. I think....
Shelia
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Wow Shelia, I'm so happy for you! I am in a very simular situation. Mother got pregnant with me by guy A and married guy B while still pregnant with me. Both A and B were friends at the time of my conception. At age 36 (last year) I found out guy B was not my true biological father.Anyway, just admit to your dad you do have so many questions your afraid it will sound like an interrigation. Let him know up front if he's a little overwhelmed with all the questions or the intesity of your excitement just to let you know. After all, a life time of questions really don't get answered in a day. I too have a life time of questions. Yet, I don't know if and when I find my father he will receive me. If I'm lucky, he too will have a life time of questions for me!! I'm so excited for you!! Keep us posted on the reunion!
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wow! Awesome! Is there someone you can bring with you? Who know if you will be in any kind of shape to drive home afterwards! :) :) I suggest bringing a friend with you who can "disappear" for a few hours while you meet with your bdad. Keep us posted. I hope to be in your shoes someday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks so much. I thought about that, but decided that if I really want to have a good meltdown after, or check into a hotel for the night (turns out its a pretty touristy spot, good for winding down-MAYBE), no one would be any the wiser, not to mention I wouldn't be expected to behave in any way other than just me... you know, stiff upper lip, "I'm okay, everything's marvelous" type stuff. :D
After last night, I'm just taking this one minute at a time. I never realized how stressful this was going to be! :eek:
The people here will be hearing from me before my family. I love them, but honestly they have no clue!
Thanks!
Hi,
I found both my bparents last June. I met bdad f2f in March. The main thing is to not over think things....hard I know. I managed to work myself into a total tizzy, but when we met things flowed nicely. Perhaps you can bring some pictures, not too many, just maybe a few of you over the years.
Good luck,
Mary
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