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Oh...my...gosh! Finally, our three-year adventure is about to come to an end (or rather an exciting new beginning)!
This post is for those who've read of our struggle with Panama for 2 years, and then our struggle with US foster care over the past year. Well, finally we're getting our girls.
We're flying to Massachusetts to pick up our Puerto Rican beauties, K (7), A (6), and L (3), on Sunday morning (THIS Sunday!), and will fly home with them Monday morning. I have spent all day on the phone with the Mass. children's services office (with their social worker, her boss, the office's travel manager, etc.) working out the details. Although our seats won't be in the same row, I'll bet there will be a kindly adult willing to trade a seat rather than having to sit next to a frightened, screaming 3-yr-old! ;)
It was looking like their social worker wouldn't have time to get away from her workload to bring them to our state until mid-July (or later), so I left a message yesterday telling her we'd be willing to fly out there ourselves to get the girls (we've flown there to visit them twice already since April) if it would help. Everyone at the office was in agreement that that would be best. (Otherwise the girls were going to have to go to respite care for 2 weeks while their foster mom was visiting family).
If anyone is thinking of foster care adoption, the Springfield, MA office is the way to go! These ladies are so helpful, and they have an overabundance of Puerto Rican-American as well as African-American children who need loving families. (As usual, the majority of adoptive/caucasian parents only want caucasian infants). It has been frustrating to wait so long (we were selected for the girls in January, but had to wait for the ICPC/Interstate paperwork to be completed), but we were persistent and made alot of the calls ourselves rather than waiting for busy social workers to find the time. Apparently it has paid off!
Rebecca :D
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Congrats Rebecca!!!! Its about time good news has come across this forum. Those are some wonderfully lucky kids to be getting a mom like you - so determined to share you love with these needy kids. Many blessings to you and your enlarged family. As for me, no TPR has been signed. The judge, a woman, seems to have some issue with me being an American and wants to repeat all the evaluations previously done on the biologicals because those are dated too long ago. What a waist of time. My attorney in Panama has been on her constantly and finally got her to commit to completion of the TPR within a month. I'll believe it when it's signed. My son knows he has a mom and a home to live in and he's extremely excited as am I! All good things come to those of us who are willing to wait - well we've proven to be great at that. I guess it's all in the grand plan of things & I'm okay with that most of the time. Keep us up on how things are going and enjoy your new family additions!!!
Thanks so much. It's amazing--and scary and nerve-wracking. I went from 0 kids to 3 overnight---yikes! The girls are settling in really well, though. Their foster moms did a tremendous job preparing them. We haven't seen any grief yet, but we know it will come. We also haven't seen any testing or button-pushing, but that too will come. They seem like "typical" sisters---"Mine! That's mine! Mommy, she took my xxx..." They don't seem to have any attachment problems, but we've got a licensed attachment therapist in mind if we should need him. We also found a psychiatrist who will not jump to prescribe meds to treat symptoms, but will recommend appropriate therapy to address root causes! We'll take the girls to him for an evaluation once we get their Medicaid cards (or get them on our own insurance) since they will need to continue with their play therapy to help with the transition.
Thanks again, everyone. I'm exhausted, but also relieved and blissful. Those cute little grins at 7 a.m. each morning make it all worthwhile!
Rebecca
I have not posted in SO long and I just thought I would check out the forum, and oh my goodness I am so excited for you!!!!! how amazing, you have waited so long and are truly blessed:)
TanyaB
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Feels good to be back on again. We adopted our son in Dec. from Panama and two sib. little girls last year from the foster care system too, yes three is crazy, but SO wonderful:)
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