adoptee's adopting (or who have adopted)??? any out there?

My brother and I are adopted and we both have adopted children. I definately feel a very special bond with our son. It is sort of like we share a secret. I like knowing that when and if my son has feelings (good or bad)about being adopted I will totally understand his feelings. My Mom and Dad are thrilled! Infact, Nathans middle name is my Dad's name and he always tells my DH and I in confidence that Nate is his favorite!! Not only are they happy because we adopted, but because my Mom and I cannot have children for the same reason. It somehow brought us closer together because she and I have the "infertility" bond!! Best of luck to you! Kim

Funny . . I was just thinking about this subject this morning. (by the way, I am also a closed adoption from Illinois) . . but anyway . . . This is what I was thinking: I have a special bond with my 8 mo. old adopted daughter and my mom now because of adoption. I have started a journal for my adopted daughter explaining all those questions we adoptees have. Now I also have an 11 yr son who is my birthson and I feel a special connection to him because he is my only and will be my only since my husband is "fixed" blood relative. Somebody who looks like me and acts like me!! As most adoptees know, this is too cool and something we haven't experienced until we meet our birth family! My mom is thrilled to death!! She babysits all the time and loves it! It has definitely brought us closer! Lynard1210

You are certainly not the only adoptee wanting to adopt! I am also an adoptee who wants to adopt. The bond between parent and child doesn't know anything about genetics. Love for a child is just that. Your child will always be your chid. For me it is a way to give back to a system that provided my teenage birthmother with an acceptable option, my infertily adoptive parents with two children they love dearly and me a safe and loving home to grow up in. There is a saying my a-mother always had hanging on the wall in her room. It reads, "Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone, but still miraclulously my own. Neven forget for a single minute you didn't grow under my heart, but in it" Beautiful.

Hello There,I'm also an adult adoptee and just had my first child....I have also been reunited with my birth family for several years - with all it's ups and downs emotionally....but a great reunion. I just wondered if any of you have read the book called, "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew" by Sherrie Eldridge, and what you thought about it. I, personally, think it is a great book and gave me great insight into my own childhood and adulthood, being adopted. I wish my parents had been able to read it years ago, but back then there wasn't much available. I grew up happy and thought I was self confident, but actually I think I was just strong headed. As an adult, and especially after reunion, I realized how fragile my self esteem really was....but it has given me the chance to look at myself and my life and learn so much more, knowing the truth. I also enjoyed reading some of Betty Jean Lifton's books, like Lost & Found and Journey of the Adopted Self.....

I am an adoptee who has just adopted. My parents started 4 adoptions and only completed two - mine and my older borther's. Our families have been very supportive of our adopting. While I can't say that I feel a special connection to our daughter, I now understand when my parents told me that as soon as that child is placed in your arms, she is yours. Not knowing my own birth parents, I have a special love for my daughter's birth parents. We have a wonderful, fully open adoption. Granted, fully open is not right for everyone. For us, it works well. Our daughter's birth mother knows that I am adopted and has provided me with an outlet to express my gratitude to my birth parents through my relationship with her. I am so thankful that my daughter will never know the void that is a part of my daily life as my adoption is closed. Please feel free to let me know if you have any additional questions.

My husband is an adoptee. We have been foster parents and now are going to adopt. I always thought we would do an opean adoption..however he does not want to do this. He is more intrested in a special needs child or international. Adopting was something we talked about doing from the start of our relationship.

I'm an adoptee and I adopted my daughter from Guatemala. She's now just over 2 years old. I'm not sure that I feel anything other than a typical mother-child bond with her at this age. However, I fully expect that I will "understand" more and anticipate more of her possible responses/reactions. I know that I will not feel the least bit threatened if she has a relationship with her first mother or bio-siblings.