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Hello!
I have been lurking and reading and attending classes and intros at agencies for months. Trying to find the best route.
I'm looking to possibly foster with the hope to adopt. Single mommy[about 50% of their FP's], in PA.
Yesterday the county agency said that about 40% of the foster kids get adopted. However, that includes any kin that adopt the kids. Here they go out to find up to 5th degree relatives over the foster parent[s] for adoption.
So, just how likely is it to adopt one or two Caucasian children [up to age about 10 yo]? What is that %?
I am wondering if I'd have any chance at all...
Thanks so much for your thoughts.
Cheers.
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I am not in PA, but here I have had mostly Caucasian children, and our STBAS is an infant placed at birth and he is Caucasian. We have only had one placement in a total of 4 yrs of fostering that were not Caucasian, and we have no race preferences listed nor have we asked about race when saying yes to placements, so that is not a skewed number.
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Thanks for your experience. You sound very lucky. :)
I should have left race out of it [since I'm open to other races].
My main question is how likely is it to adopt from foster when the state checks for relatives to the 5th degree, checking every 6 months with a new batch of letters, before they consider the foster family. ?
I'm wondering if the odds are against me....
Thanks!
I don't post often, but wanted to respond. I am a single mom, and adopted a then 4 year old boy 3 years ago through foster care. He was in the system basically since birth and they did try some relatives along the way, but none worked out. There were really no fit relatives available.
I don't feel comfortable giving any more details than that, but things have worked out well for us. Although things certainly seem to vary regionally, the fact that you have such a wide age range is certainly in your favor.
Good luck!
We are in PA. In 7+ years fostering, all but 3 of our placements have been Caucasian, but clearly that's going to depend on where you live. I specifically asked for a placement who was not Caucasian, but they called me for this newborn Caucasian boy instead...
Two out of my three kids (including STBAS in my kids) are Caucasian.
In our area, it wouldn't matter if you were single.
Good luck. The best advice I can give is to talk to other foster parents in your area and find out what their experiences have been.
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I'm in PA also, and the 5 generation diligent search had scared me like crazy. Especially in my son's case, where both bio parents wanted us to adopt him, and the department searched and mailed out letters for over 6 month.... BUT, at least this prevents family coming forward in the last minute, because they didn't know..!!
In my 2 cases, the family members were either not interested, or not suitable.
When we got our son ( he is biracial), we THOUGHT he might be oriental???? After 3 days, and guessing through the races, I finally called the cw, and asked, lol
In my daughter's case, I wouldn't have accepted her, if she would have been cc, because I want my 2 little kids to look the same, she is also biracial. ( and was a pre-adoptive placement from the start)
Here you absolutely can state a race preference, there is no judging.
Thank you, jmd and AMom,Great to hear from other PA adopters!! Great to hear you were able to be matched with kiddos that filled your hearts. Interesting too that still going out to 5 generations, your were still able to adopt. :) I found some rough estimates/statistics. About 35%-40% of FC kids go to adoption and of those, in PA, surprisingly enough, about 50% are adopted by the FF. So, I guess that means there is about a 15%-20% chance I'd be able to adopt a Fchild in my home ....More to mull over.
Thank you, jmd and AMom,
Great to hear from other PA adopters!! Great to hear you were able to be matched with kiddos that filled your hearts. Interesting too that still going out to 5 generations, your were still able to adopt. :)
I found some rough estimates/statistics. About 35%-40% of FC kids go to adoption and of those, in PA, surprisingly enough, about 50% are adopted by the FF. So, I guess that means there is about a 15%-20% chance I'd be able to adopt a Fchild in my home ....
More to mull over.
Keep in mind dysfunction tends to run in families just because they look doesn't mean they will find suitable family.
My first set is 3rd generation foster care, the other generations didn't hit the system until they were older so they aged out. As a result of grandmas still unresolved case plan with bio dad she was ruled out.
My second set have white collar grandparents who make way more $$$ than I could ever dream of, are completely appropriate, but have a older adult child with a disability that made her inappropriate. I'm positive if we didn't have a great open relationship she would have hired help and got the boys, but they like us, know the boys are safe, and this allows both of us to have the roles we desire. I truly could not have asked for a better bio family to deal with in this situation.
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