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My ex wife and I were married a few short months when i started the step parent adoption in CA. She told every one she had no idwea who the real father was .after the adoption went through which was about 1 year into our marriage she came out and said she had something to tell me. The real father was around and was always around which was her sisters husband . Which is the uncle (adult)and mother was a minor 14yrsold. I am looking to be released from the financual obligation. The boy was 4 when i started adoption and now is 18yrs and just was told the real truth in the last 2 yrs.
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Wow. Your ex-wife was only 14 when this happened? How does your son feel about his uncle being his biological father, and has this changed your relationship with him?
I don't really know what financial obligations you would have now that he's 18 (unless you agreed to pay for college in the divorce agreement?). But even then, if you knew the circumstances when you were divorced, I imagine it might be hard to argue for a change now. Was the divorce recent and is that why this is coming up after so many years?
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i am not sure how he feels about the situation he looks at him as uncle and he says his mom savvvvd me up we were married in dec 91 i started adoption in apr 92 she had lived with me less than a year everything in the house was there already when they moved in the social worker doing the report said she shouldnt even be at the house doing report cause the standard is to wait 2 yrs to see if it works well she thouht she would let this one go because she said we were all happy and the house looked great which i already had everthing set up i was always told by the x that she got pregnant at a party the social worker said i had the right to know if x knew i then said x said got pregnant at party i looked at x and hasked if that was true she said yes i then asked if the guy would ever come to my door or show up in a grocery store in town and she said no and i said ok well then i dont need to know oct adoption is final around march the next year she said she had something to tell me about the guy i said why is he around and she replied with he has always been around i was devastated when she said right then i said that is it we are done you pack and get out we were already using meth and i just went on a run to try and cover the pain i we got divorced when she was able to serve me cause i was in jail 97 son still did not know the real truth til he was 15 x got on welfare when we split and i did not work for a while and i never went to try and do anything i didnt think it is good to all the sudden tell the boy well now your last name is gonna change agin and eric isnt your dad that would be alot on the boy i just told the x someday u will have to tell him and he will respect me alot more than her and that day has came when we devorced they didnt even care about anything but i was on birthcertifate so i pay she does everything she can to bring me down so the eyes dont look at her