I'm new and scared...

Bekaa,What a difficult situation. I am sorry that your dh feels that way but I very happy that you want to give your baby life. Unfortuanately you will have to tell him at some point. I don't know the situation well enough to tell you when but the longer you wait I think the harder it will be. As far as advice on want to do I am not going to be the most experienced person here but I will give you a few of my thoughts. I am a hopeful adoptive parent so I can honestly tell you I have no idea what it is like to be in your situation. Just wanted you to know where I was coming from. Anyway, you have many options. They will depend greatly upon your situation with your dh. If you plan on staying together he is going to have to be a big part of the decision. Maybe he will come around when he finds out you are pregnant and it won't be as bad as you think. You guys could figure out a way to keep the baby. THere are sources that can help make that happen. You guys could also consider adoption. There are many different kids of adoption. With an open adoption you would still be able to know how the baby is and what their life is like. You could use an agency, a lawyer, or find an adoptive family privately. There are many sites that you can look through profiles and contact the families personally. A couple of sites are [url]www.itsaboutlove.org[/url] and [url]www.parentprofiles.com[/url] If you guys end up splitting up you could join the ranks of single mom. Many people do it so I know it is totally possible. Once again there are way to get help if you want to keep this child in your life. It really comes down to talking with your dh and figuring it out together. What is going to be best for you, your dh, and your child. I don't even know if you have any other children. But they would need to be considered also. How will this affect them? Like I sais I am just typing a few thoughts. I hope I am not offending anyone or making you feel worse. I don't know enough details to know what else to say. But you will be in my prayers and I hope that you will be able to work through this situation. Please post as often as you would like. There are many here who will probably be much more helpful than I. Good luck and lots of HUGS!Timberly

Hi Bekaa, I just wanted to check in on you. I really dont have a lot of advice I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you and wanting to send you some support. Have you told your husband yet? Sometimes guys get freaked out at thought of the responsibility of a baby but once the baby is here they often fall in love with it. Us moms fall in love with our babies way before they are ever born. If you are really afraid that he is going to push for an abortion you may want to tell him when you are a few months along and past the point of an abortion. It sounds like you will have some support with your family in Texas. If you move to Texas do you think that you will be able to parent your baby? There are alot of resources available for single parents. I have always wanted to go to Australia I hear that it is beautiful there. Are you stationed there in the military? IҒm from Texas, what part of Texas are you moving to? Have a great day Hugs, Maria