Just found out I was adopted..54 years old!

TASHA1, Isn't it amazing that there are so many of us..It is such a long hard wait for the info from NYS. I dont understand what they told you It dones make sense.Why would they have to petition the court? Have you gone on the NY Adoption web site (Sylvia's adoption page) I belong to their list server and get emails with much information in them. Anyway I hope we both hear something soon.Stay in touch

still waiting.......

Tasha, I tried replying to you awhile ago and I dont think it posted. We have alot in common. Do you know that if you wer born in NYCity you can access your original birth certificate by looking through their birth books IF you have the nunber on your amended birth certificate. Being born in Buffalo all I hit is brick walls and nasty people! I'm getting nowhere fast as I still wait for the DOH in Albany.Regards,M

Does your state have the ability to appoint a CASA (court appointed special adovocate)? I have been considering opening my great grandmother's adoption records, found that there is a little information in them. A CASA could be a good option.

Hello MBeth, I am 55, There had always been a rumor going round that I was adopted, but so many things happened, It seems right off there was a disconnect between my “parents” and myself, at age 10 I was placed in a “Group Home” by my “parents” 3 years later they relinquished parental rights making me a ward of the state.( a different one than where I was evidently adopted) I have spent my entire life wondering what it was that I did so wrong to make this happen. Fast forward to yesterday, my “Father” is dying of Spleen cancer, (yes even though I am technically no longer theirs I still call them mother and father) my brother and I flew out to help him and to start to take care of his final wishes I had the opportunity to read his “Will” and there it was in black and white, I truly was adopted. I have kept my real feelings from my brother/adoptive brother telling him I’m ok, I’m no where close to ok. I’m not even sure what to do next. Maybe there is nothing seeing that it is a little more than “midlife” but my brain has so many questions none of them that will be answered by my now “Relinquished Adoptive Parents” I have no clue what to say or do next, it was easier just as a rumor I could ignore it and carry on. Now I have to go back to “Fathers” house today and help my brother. He is my support and crutch at the moment but he’s had issues as well. Sorry so long I do hope your Adoptive parents were loving and supportive even if they did keep the secret. Thanks for reading. T.