Bi-racial adoptions

If you pm Linny she has a list of low cost AA adoptions. What the social worker was probably trying to say (although it sounds like she did it poorly) was that if you are prepared to parent a mixed race child you should also be prepared to parent a child who is the single race of either of those races. If that makes sense. I think it is troublesome to many social workers and AA's if white parents are willing to adopt an AA/CC mix but not straight AA. In your case it certainly is not that much different that a CC couple wanting to only adopt a CC infant and the social worker was way out of line. Especially considering you were not even a client. I will PM you a link to an agency that I like but it is not in the chicago area and is a little more expensive. Jen

I have a couple recommendations. I am AA/Asian and my Dh is CC as we just adopted a little boy who is AA/CC/Mexican. I will pm you-- Good luck Lexie

our facilitator will not work with those who want to only adopt biracially-you have to be willing and want to adopt AA of any "mix". Anyway, this may be what the social worker was getting at. some folks are under the impression that somehow mixing AA with something else makes the child "less" black, or are under the mistaken impression that this means the child will be light skinned. She may have been trying to communicate, however poorly, some of those issues. or she may just have felt that as an AA you should want to adopt AA period-who knows what was in her mind. I know the Cradle is in your area, but know nothing about them. we adopted from Bethany Christian services (thru our agency and facilitator). if you're interested in them and want more info, pm me. good luck! Lisa

I agree with everyone else on this one. Agencies seem to be getting really funny about people requesting biracial only. My state agency supervisor does not place children with families that request biracial only. Most agencies would rather you put any child all or part AA. Because you are an interracial couple you will most likely end up with a biracial child or one the looks like what society considers a biracial child. I think the SW you spoke to got her attitude when you added AA/Asian and AA/Hispanic but not full AA. My private agency will let you specify biracial only if you are an interracial couple but they would prefer you open up to a child of the full race. If you are really concerned about the child appearing to be a blend of you and your husband state that to the agency. We are an AA couple and requested a child who is all or part AA and ended up with a child who is AA/Asian/CC. She looks like us. I'll PM my agency name to you. They have a branch in your area.