Udder Mudder

I am sorry that you misunderstood the name my daughter calls her Other Mother. Another member brought this issue to my attention and I was shocked that I had upset someone. We have always introduced her as E's other Mother to be sure she isn't considered to be less of a parent to her b/c she isn't the Mother in her home doing the day to day routine. She was uncomfortable with Birth Mother, Momma N and I I was uncomfortable with just her first name b/c that doesn't give her the respect that she deserves from our daughter,friends, and family. My daughter is only 4 yrs old and has troubled speaking clearly, as most children do in the first few years, she calls this woman her "Udder Mudder" meaning Other Mother. This has nothing to do with udders or cows and anything horible you may have imagined. This is a term of endearment for us and have never had anyone think anything else. We have always given her Other Mother the credit she deserves and feel she is an equal parent and always include her wishes, thoughts, and feelings in raising our daughter together. We have always introduced her as E's other Mother to be sure she isn't considered to be less of a parent to her b/c she isn't the Mother in her home doing the day to day routine. This woman LOVES this, we love her and would NEVER do anything to make her feel less than the important person she is. I hope that I have cleared this up for you and if you have any thoughts I would love to continue this conversation. I appreciate any input you may have even if we don't agree. Rachel