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I am curious to know the odds of two siblings, female 5 year old and and male 2 year old being placed in the same home.... it is imperative IMO that they stay together.Just wondering if this is possible or just a pipe dream. I ask because I have read conflicting sides on this issue.I have read about parents who can't seem to get consered for the adoptions yet I hear soo much about how many kids need homes. It's kinda confusing to say the least. I've also heard that the older ones get overlooked in lue of the babies... thus Im curious how successfull placements of "older" children are and especially siblings.
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One of my dearest friends was fostering a 5 year old and hoped to adopt him. Somewhere along the way as the adoption was proceeding, she was told that his 18 mon. old sister was also adoptable. So she and her husband did end up adopting both children. She did not want a baby.
Until her son became a teen, things were pretty good. But, he has had lots of problems lately and continues in that direction.
The kids were just deserted - left with a baby sitter - their mother never said goodbye. So he was haunted I think wondering why or if he'd ever see his mom again.
People do adopt sibling groups. But many people want newborns - the older a child - probably the harder it is I imagine for them to be adopted.
Are you considering relinquishing your own children? Is that why you are asking? Or??? I hope if you are considering relinquishing your own children that you get lots of serious counseling - some from those who understand adoption.
Hi Tat,I think there are a lot of people out there who would be happy to adopt a sibling group. I believe (though, I'm no expert) that the potential birthparents could pick the potential adoptive parents in for an open adoption or semi open if they would like. I think it would work the same way as an infant adoption, but not sure. I know when we signed on with our agency, they asked us if we would consider a sibling group, so I believe a sibling group could be sure to be adopted together in this kind of adoption. I hope this helps, and if this is something you're considering for your own kids, I'm sorry for any trouble you may be going through right now.
The unfortunate reality is that race is a factor as well as age and health in the placement of children. BUT having said that 2 and 5 are not THAT old today. In the 60's that would have been the case, but not today. I also think today that you have much more leverage to insist that they get placed together. However, you also need to know the down-side of making such a firm request will likely keep them in foster care longer - maybe forever. it's a risk.The first choice would be to keep them within your fmaily if that were possible. Any extended family members who could help you out? I wish you well,Mirah