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Hi! :) How is everyone? Hope, all well. :) I come to this site quite a few times during the week, and well, of course, you know, read others! and I can't help but thinking to myself, when I go back to my thread, and look for new posts, or "replies" (I guess you could say)to "Touched By An Angel" that maybe I am a little out of place here???? I really really do not want to come off :( sounding self centered or anything because, I know that there are so many many b-moms or adopted children for instance, that really need to hear some encouraging words or advice from other people who have been in, or have similarily been in their shoes. But, I kind of wonder sometimes, and it could just be me, if maybe some have read my post, but then when they see me respond to other posts, I don't know, maybe are kind of weird about seeing my response, being that I am NOT an adopted child, b-mom, or a-parent. What I can tell you though, is I love to offer whatever little "tid bits" I guess I'll call it, from having gone through this painful and sad process with my two sisters, one, the oldest a long time ago, and my other sister about 3 years ago, that I can, because I feel that there may be some views that I can share that may be of some ? help, and encourage a little, just from what I've experienced, and watched what my sisters have gone through. I know it is not the same, and am not looking to compare myself, or even try to relate to them, cause I know it is not the same thing. Also, I know that this is not a popularity contest here. I was just wondering, if some others have read my post, and could relate in any way, like, were you the child in a similar situation? How did you feel? How did you cope? Do you mind talking about it? Or, were you the Aunt also, in a simiar situation? Grandparent? I really do not hope that I have offended anyone with what I've shared with you here, just looking for a little feedback, and maybe a "buddy?" You can also email me at onejobette@yahoo.com Looking to hear from anyone else, beside the few who have responded. But, I AM THANKFUL FOR THOSE WHO HAVE, YOU HAVE BLESSED ME WITH YOUR RESPONSES. ;) God Bless all of you, and hope you take care and continue to find what you need through these forums. :)
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Hi -- I'm one of the ones who did respond to your earlier post. I'm kind of an old-timer around here and I might have an idea why you didn't get too many replies. I am not remembering exactly the forum you posted on, but it was not a very popular (meaning, frequently visited) one. I think it was "adoption stories"? The choice of forum might have contributed to low visibility. Another reason, and probably the more important one, is that once a thread stops receiving replies, it is no longer active - and thus, not visible to the people who check for "new threads/new posts".
I hope this helps, sometimes it takes a while to make connections and to understand the inner workings of this place.
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Hey :) Thanx for responding back. Greatly appreciated. Yeah, that makes sense. You know I have had some "difficulty" in learnoing how to get around here a little. So I need to click on a certain title forum like I did the first time to talk about something in particular? Also, I've been getting a little help from someone else here, but, "we" do not delete our posts, do we. I'm thinkin they do? Because, I posted this question a WHILE ago, and just a couple of days ago, it was taken off, (by my request, but still) so I'm assuming we are not the ones who just decide, "welp! it's been on there long enough!" I guess the other thing was, I thought that when you clicked on "stories" from the home page, that people saw the angel one among the others right off, and were reading it, but not responding. The other thing I guess that made me pose the question was I have seen that there were like 200 and something reviews, but not alot of repsonses. Now, don't get me wrong. I am NOT LOOKING FOR ALL SOME 200 and what not viewers to respond, but I was thinking, "well, maybe they are turned off by this subject somewhat, me just being the aunt and all." cause I have mainly of course you know, to be expected, but still have only and mainly seen posts by b-moms and a-parents, hardly any b-family relatives. Or, maybe I am just not seeing them or looking in the right places. And again, don't get me wrong, I know that the b-moms and a-parents probably need the forums and discussions more than I. But, anyhow.. I am sorry for just going on here, I am a TERRIBLE talker. But, thank you again for responding. BOTH TIMES now. :) Your first response was real touching and helpful, as is this helpful tip and insight! Hope to hear from you again! TAKE CARE!
Open forums are great for posting first-hand experiences but one of the best thnigs about this forum is respect for second and third party experiences. Having read your post and profile, I think we have a lot in common but I would prefer sharing experiences through PM or email. Happy G'Ma
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One thing that a lot of people do when they navigate this site is to click on "new posts" -- try that, it might help you get the lay of the land, so to speak. As far as seeing that 200 people opened your thread, that's not at all unusual. MOST people online just read -- they're called "lurkers." I've seen threads have 1000 views and only 10 or so responses. I really think that if you figure out how/where to post, you'll make connections! I really doubt that people are "turned off" by your story - I just think the people who would reply haven't seen it.